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The best resource on human mating strategies is David Buss, The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating.

Documented, empirical, and factually "cold".




“Factually cold” is a yellow flag, and writing a book called “evolutionary psychology” is a red flag. People will accept any lie if you say it’s “the harsh truth we have to accept”, that’s why this site is so famously unnecessarily cynical.

Bit worrying Amazon reviews too, the “I hate my wife” marriage is a famous boomer pathology not a universal constant.

> You have to wonder why the divorce rate is 50%+, most marriages are miserable, marriages kill libido, many cheat, and so forth. Your dreams might be crushed reading this book so avoid it if you want to stay in Wonderland.

And:

> The most interesting topic I remember is the Coolidge Effect where males tire and withdraw from having sex with the same female partner. The Coolidge Effect has been tested many times on mammals and the same pattern can be observed (very predictable).

I think I was just reading how this isn’t true?

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-...


You could also try to read the book, or its cover, for a start. David Buss is a renowned and serious scholar. If you think that "evolutionary psychology" is a "red flag," I suggest you email another renowned biologist, Richard Dawkins, and warn him of if[1].

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WxhzmIlgBLY


I think Richard Dawkins probably isn't very renowned anymore either; he's a sort of proto-guru, the kind who sounds impressive when you only meet him in book form but then social media is invented and it turns out he is ridiculous. Essentially one of the reasons online atheism died.

(ex https://twitter.com/RichardDawkins/status/140123936567899750... https://twitter.com/RichardDawkins/status/146403399255088332...)

As for evo psych, find me a study design that doesn't allow just making things up post facto.


Dataclysm was a nice data-driven breakdown of all aspects of online dating by one of the founders of OKCupid


Didn't know he had written a book. He had some interesting blog posts back in the day.




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