I think it's actually your comment that is unreflective. Obviously the "established" male approach must have some benefits, if it became dominant over the millennia; so the point is to find an equilibrium where it can continue to exist side by side with other approaches. Saying that it should just be obliterated from existence is unrealistic and unproductive.
That begs the question: it assumes that that _is_ the "established" male approach. Moreover the premise of the article is that he's discovering that it is an approach that, increasinly, isn't working for him, and is a road to a lonely middle age.
