I think there's a "know thyself" problem for those who have difficulty with their kids. They'll behave like you, and if you're not happy with yourself then you won't be happy with them.
very much so. but it works the other way too. seeing myself reflected in my kids motivates me to change my behavior.
and parents changing their behavior is the only thing that works. applying two different standards and thinking that certain behavior is only ok for adults but not for kids (swearing for example) doesn't work.
yup that's a classic.
I think there's a "know thyself" problem for those who have difficulty with their kids. They'll behave like you, and if you're not happy with yourself then you won't be happy with them.
very much so. but it works the other way too. seeing myself reflected in my kids motivates me to change my behavior.
and parents changing their behavior is the only thing that works. applying two different standards and thinking that certain behavior is only ok for adults but not for kids (swearing for example) doesn't work.
for anyone who missed it, a longer discussion on the topic is here btw: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31703675