If you’ve ever spent a significant amount of time in the orbit of someone near that cluster of symptoms you start to develop similar doubts about the narratives put forward by them. It is rarely so cut and dry that such people should be casually dismissed, but there is often something to doubt.
The difficult truth is that the situation will be two sided. Someone’s behavior and actions will go beyond what is reasonable (or legally defensible) and the reaction will likewise go beyond what is reasonable (or legally defensible). It is a complicated grey area where nobody looks good and people take sides according to their biases rooting for one side to “win” instead of being motivated to fix problems.
The difficult truth is that the situation will be two sided. Someone’s behavior and actions will go beyond what is reasonable (or legally defensible) and the reaction will likewise go beyond what is reasonable (or legally defensible). It is a complicated grey area where nobody looks good and people take sides according to their biases rooting for one side to “win” instead of being motivated to fix problems.