Specifically, how did you delete the connection your brain made between activity and failure?
Years ago, I tried to create my own little business. I failed. I tried to be persistent and worked till fatigue, depression, and anxiety attacks stopped me. I got into therapy, slowly rebuilt my life, feel pretty good now. I would even say it was a valuable experience.
However, it seems that the connection between writing/coding/building something and failure persists. I think I am not without creativity. I would love to try some side projects. But whenever I get excited about some idea and sit to work on it, my brain treats it like poison. The resistance is so strong I never make any progress.
I remember working on something all night and enjoying it so that when I finally went to bed, I was looking forward to continuing in the morning. How do I get this back?
Your beliefs shape your mindset. The way you talk to yourself plays a key role in how you lead your life and whether you succeed in your goals.
Shift from learned helplessness to learned optimism by catching yourself in negative thoughts and disputing them with more positive and hopeful thoughts.
To do this – take note of your emotions and whenever you sense going down a negative path, reframe it using a more positive tone. Use language that describes the event as temporary and specific, hence fixable as opposed to a permanent and pervasive explanation with a feeling of hopelessness.
Change won't happen in a day, but if you constantly practice it, you will get back to enjoying your work and leading the life you desire.
All the best!