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15 points by ghuntley on Sept 26, 2021 | hide | past | favorite | 15 comments


I was a funeral director in a previous life and literally encountered thousands of bodies in my career. I can say having seen as much death as I have means I am not really too worried about my own demise. My take on thole thing is: living is what happens when you stop worrying about dying.


My wife and I are always surprised by the reluctance of our friends and associates to deal pragmatically with the only certainty in our lives: our passing away. Many of them think it is bad luck to even touch on the topic. We have done almost all the things you recommend in your list. Many thanks for taking the trouble to outline them in explicit fashion. Having gone through the ordeal of settling matters after my father's untimely death, I cannot emphasise strongly enough how important it is that we fulfil this responsibility to our surviving family and heirs.


Some pragmatism and quite a lot of ego, with a dash of bile. On the whole, refreshingly honest.

Your mine craft is not going to define you. Bitterness to an ex partner might. Why not give the kid the watch now?

I think the rationalisation about organ donation is a bit wrong headed but body autonomy empowers the decision. Maybe donate your body to science? Saves the funeral costs.

Kingaroy is Joh country. They breed 'em strong up there.


> ex-wife

> By design, she gets fucking nothing and is not invited to the funeral. Please respect my wishes here.

I wish him to be able to forgive before his death. Just for the love of my children, I would allow my ex-partner to my funeral if my children wish so.


Suggest some dollar limits or other guidance on spending for the kids and the party.

Is there a limit on how long your various servers must be maintained?

Is there an alternative if the one yubikey gets lost (which it will)?

There’s a lot of “homework” assigned, to export all the data. How about doing it now and copying it to a few well-labeled, encrypted USB sticks? That eliminates hours of work to at least get the data as of today.


One of the most annoying blogs I've ever seen.


Pretty bitter blog tbh. Not sure he's really gotten over his ex-wife.


Advice to make a will is not universally useful. It's just one more burden.

Here in Norway one has limited ability to dispose of assets in a will because spouses and children have legally defined rights to a large proportion of it and for most people what is left isn't enough to be worth stressing over.

So I won't bother making a will just as my wife didn't before her death. And her attitude to her funeral was summed up in her answer to my question on the subject: "Do as you like, I won't be there.".


That's way more thought than I'd ever put into it. Once I die, I won't care.

I am reconsidering my organ donor opt in though. It's a minor thing, but why would I give away anything to a system that never helped me?


Because you're not giving to a system, but to someone who may be about to die without the organs.

In any case, you're not gonna care or notice when you're dead.


It’s a karma thing. For example you seem to be enjoying the existence of the internet. Maybe your organ ends up in somebody that enabled that for you or in somebody dear to somebody that made your life better.

And if you say that your organ may end up in somebody you despise you can still ask yourself if it is so bad that you wouldn’t gamble on a “good outcome “.


You're giving those organs to two or three sick individuals who need them in order to live, not to a "system".


> why would I give away anything to a system that never helped me?

But you started by saying

>Once I die, I won't care.


But I care now. Doesn't matter, I'm too lazy to get a new card. Which I realized recently might be confusing. Do not resuscitate and organ donor? How's that work :/


'foot tails' -> 'coat tails'?




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