When you have confidence (in other words, if you are really good and you know it), the incentive to look good goes down. You have a track record. Smart people know who you are.
Your casual remarks impress those that haven't thought things through as much as you have.
You can be yourself, using the same vocabulary and tone of voice you would use at home. On the other hand, people that are insecure or down on the status ladder have a huge incentive to impress others. Some of them will work hard to improve their situation; others will work hard to improve their looks--eventually becoming phony and disbertesque (but only the really good will be able to tell them apart; average people may be blind to it).
The mere tone of voice and choice of words tells it all. If you cannot believe they use these words and tone of voice at home, that's a good sign they're striving for the stereotype.
The other day I was interviewing this guy. He looks straight to me and talks as if we're equals (even though he's climbing that darn status ladder). His tone of voice and choice of words are informal, smoothly flowing. Finally, he brings up a thing or two I haven't thought. That's impressive; a sign that the guy _is really_ good, not posing.
He's on the team now. And poor me, for I have to keep it up to keep him on.
Your casual remarks impress those that haven't thought things through as much as you have.
You can be yourself, using the same vocabulary and tone of voice you would use at home. On the other hand, people that are insecure or down on the status ladder have a huge incentive to impress others. Some of them will work hard to improve their situation; others will work hard to improve their looks--eventually becoming phony and disbertesque (but only the really good will be able to tell them apart; average people may be blind to it).
The mere tone of voice and choice of words tells it all. If you cannot believe they use these words and tone of voice at home, that's a good sign they're striving for the stereotype.
The other day I was interviewing this guy. He looks straight to me and talks as if we're equals (even though he's climbing that darn status ladder). His tone of voice and choice of words are informal, smoothly flowing. Finally, he brings up a thing or two I haven't thought. That's impressive; a sign that the guy _is really_ good, not posing.
He's on the team now. And poor me, for I have to keep it up to keep him on.