I'm french canadian and the most satisfying solution I've found is to keep switching from one keyboard layout to another. I mostly use the american layout when I code, and the french canadian one to communicate. I got used to it in about a week.
Not sure it's comforting but after exposure to french and swiss keyboard layouts, the canadian one is for me a sweet spot. It's "almost standard qwerty" while allowing to write in french properly. "US International with dead keys" is workable but somehow weirder and less consistent between OSX and Linux.
I now exclusively use US-International No Dead Keys. I just use the right alt key + qpys to get äöüß. I hate having to switch layouts and switching layouts accidentally while typing. Those key combinations are not worse than []{}\ on the german layout.
I use a US keyboard with Caps Lock mapped to Compose (using WinCompose [0]), which lets me type any Unicode character I need. Totally agree that switching layouts is a pain.
