I have belonged to teams with abusive elements, and it certainly felt similar to what the author describes (while not nearly to the same degree, and for that I feel for them).
Approaching HR or higher ups at the company doesn't feel like an approach that is likely to bear fruit. It sucks, because it should, but reality is that you're likely to be labelled a problem — especially if it's your word against a team that is as closely knit as this one is described.
I have to wonder whether gritting your teeth and trying to get through it is a better approach (that is, if you want to stay). There is something about being friendly, eager, unemotional, and unopinionated that tends to placate the jerks.
You only have to do this as long as it takes to escape to a more emotionally supportive situation. A couple good review cycles, and you can wave goodbye.
I realize that this may not be possible depending on your situation. Just an anecdote.
In any case, I hope the author lands on their feet. Don't let it get you down.
Approaching HR or higher ups at the company doesn't feel like an approach that is likely to bear fruit. It sucks, because it should, but reality is that you're likely to be labelled a problem — especially if it's your word against a team that is as closely knit as this one is described.
I have to wonder whether gritting your teeth and trying to get through it is a better approach (that is, if you want to stay). There is something about being friendly, eager, unemotional, and unopinionated that tends to placate the jerks.
You only have to do this as long as it takes to escape to a more emotionally supportive situation. A couple good review cycles, and you can wave goodbye.
I realize that this may not be possible depending on your situation. Just an anecdote.
In any case, I hope the author lands on their feet. Don't let it get you down.