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It is still substantially true that the Internet is an autodidact's delight.

There is so much excellent online content that, given a public library (beside the library itself) one can gather as much knowledge as one wants.

Three other recommendations I give all youngsters:

- stay sober

- minimize debt

- remain married




> remain married

Is this such good advice? Relationships are hard work, and can be made (or mended) given sufficient effort. But sometimes, it just doesn't work and can't be made to.


Yeah I think a better bullet would be “choose your SO carefully”.

Most people seem to choose their SO for bad reasons and then stay in it due to sunk costs.


Also, it's a recommendation, not a rule.

If your SO proves a sociopath, you may be forced into unfortunate measures.


Maybe you got married young because you both thought each other were sexually attractive in high school and you were young and stupid.

Turns out a year in you don’t have a lot in common.

Should you stay together and have kids together because you made a stupid decision based on sex?

Your partner doesn’t have to be a sociopath for someone to decide marriage was a mistake for both parties.


It's a guideline, for external use. It can apply as well to a second round.


A guideline where the correctness is unknown without details is a bad guideline.

For a guideline to be helpful it needs to be true in most circumstances.

“Remain married” can be actively harmful as much as it can be the right thing. That makes it useless as generic advice.


Can you explain a bit why you view marriage as so important?


The universality of marriage across time and cultures seems an empirical affirmation of the institution.

It supports propagation of the species, sure.

In the individual context of this thread, anecdotally, marriage is a forcing function that drives maturation.

Or not. Punt on the SO, and let one's humanity stay stunted.

Note that I am stipulating a non-abusive relationship here. Merely kids gaffing adulthood off.




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