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> You do not go after a woman and start a family

Almost all male friends of mine who had admitted watching porn, are either in a relationship or married. I don’t know if they “went after women”, though; it doesn’t sound like the right way to pursue love.

Some admitted to watching porn even after marriage.



I know plenty of couples who watch porn together, married and otherwise.


> I don’t know if they “went after women”, though; it doesn’t sound like the right way to pursue love.

I did, and I'm not afraid to say it. Love came after.


"going after women" just means being motivated to go out and form relationships.

pavel_lishin I didnt say they didnt. I was addressing the phrase.


I don't know what porn are you watching, but there is not much about relationships (in fact, lot of porn is specifically about fantasies of being unfaithful).

And that's the main problem with OP's post. If you have unsatisfied sexual needs, it's awful to suggest that you should attempt at relationships (or even start a family) for that reason. No, people should do these things because they genuinely want to have them, and not to pretend they want them just for a bit of nudge nudge.

I am grateful for porn existing, because it lets me not to have a (sexual) relationship if I don't need the emotional component. I think it's more honest that way, actually.


Right. And these people did.




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