> None of this has any connection to being anxious about something, like a deadline, or a date, or an exam. Or with panic attacks. Or with being an overtly anxious person who may be prone to worry. That's a different syndrome and isn't noticeably linked to abusive behaviour.
You lost me here a bit, but I agree with the rest. It depends what you judge to be "abusive". People definitely suffer extreme, inappropriate worry about things that make sense to worry about. They also have general feelings of worry that cause distress.
These stresses sometimes manifest in testiness. Depending on the relationship or how well liked the person is, this tends to get judged as normal tension or "abuse". I've definitely been abused by people who were clearly letting themselves be wound up. I've wondered if the person has pathological problems (eg narcissism, anxiety). I don't know if I'd go so far as saying the person is not redeemable, but the behavior was definitely unacceptable and included name calling.
I think a lot of people just don't want it to be true, but it is. That doesn't mean you have to put up with the behavior, because "they have a heart of gold deep down", or anything like that. It's just wrong to say that general anxiety isn't associated with any abusive behaviors categorically (it's really one of those statements that's the exact opposite of the truth). I've seen it happen.
You lost me here a bit, but I agree with the rest. It depends what you judge to be "abusive". People definitely suffer extreme, inappropriate worry about things that make sense to worry about. They also have general feelings of worry that cause distress.
These stresses sometimes manifest in testiness. Depending on the relationship or how well liked the person is, this tends to get judged as normal tension or "abuse". I've definitely been abused by people who were clearly letting themselves be wound up. I've wondered if the person has pathological problems (eg narcissism, anxiety). I don't know if I'd go so far as saying the person is not redeemable, but the behavior was definitely unacceptable and included name calling.
I think a lot of people just don't want it to be true, but it is. That doesn't mean you have to put up with the behavior, because "they have a heart of gold deep down", or anything like that. It's just wrong to say that general anxiety isn't associated with any abusive behaviors categorically (it's really one of those statements that's the exact opposite of the truth). I've seen it happen.