I know people with severe chronic illnesses, some directly in my life. My own problems are minor by comparison, in that I can manage them to the point where they hardly affect others. Or so I think.
You need to make headspace for 'self care' as a category of activity, one you not only give yourself permission to pursue, but expect of yourself. One of the best comparisons I've heard is the oxygen mask instructions on an airplane. It's foolish to help other people when you haven't helped yourself. You just end up killing yourself by prioritizing expectations of others over your own health. If you do it right, you can often accomplish both.
You need to make headspace for 'self care' as a category of activity, one you not only give yourself permission to pursue, but expect of yourself. One of the best comparisons I've heard is the oxygen mask instructions on an airplane. It's foolish to help other people when you haven't helped yourself. You just end up killing yourself by prioritizing expectations of others over your own health. If you do it right, you can often accomplish both.