I agree this is an important lesson. Not everyone is aware of it, or else people would obviously avoid pointless arguments and acting in futile ways.
Arguing for 5 minutes or 10 minutes can consume your whole day afterwards (in your own mind).
When you say something, be it bad or good, words will continue to resonate silently in her mind (and yours).
I also noticed when I'm working at something really important, or when I'm on an epiphany of discovering some glorious truth, I naturally don't mind any argument thrown at me. I'm just focused on that beautiful and exciting thought, and no external input could shake it out of my head.
I then realized how futile other person's worries and "sadness" are.
It's relativity: the wider your awareness (and the brighter your thoughts), the more shocking it is to see people "closed minded", prisoner of their own thoughts's limitation, and self-imposed grief.
Oddly, we keep going from one to the other. Sticking with mindfulness is hard.
Arguing for 5 minutes or 10 minutes can consume your whole day afterwards (in your own mind). When you say something, be it bad or good, words will continue to resonate silently in her mind (and yours).
I also noticed when I'm working at something really important, or when I'm on an epiphany of discovering some glorious truth, I naturally don't mind any argument thrown at me. I'm just focused on that beautiful and exciting thought, and no external input could shake it out of my head. I then realized how futile other person's worries and "sadness" are.
It's relativity: the wider your awareness (and the brighter your thoughts), the more shocking it is to see people "closed minded", prisoner of their own thoughts's limitation, and self-imposed grief.
Oddly, we keep going from one to the other. Sticking with mindfulness is hard.