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The concept of "Social anxiety" really doesn't explain it fully IMHO. The concept may even sound like a label of being wimpy, retarded or scared, which is probably not true at all - or can be made true/untrue depending on circumstances!

It's more about what kind of loads your brain are optimized for (when feeling "drained" after social exposure for a full day), being exceedingly more sensitive than most, maybe even exposing more shenanigans at earliest opportunity.

What helps is being encouraged to decide yourself, taking matters in your own hands. Making decision yourself to go into an unfamiliar environment, while having opportunity to withdraw etc. would be empowering and allow for adjustments by the individual herself. This requires a platform in the environment though, which takes time for everybody to adjust to. However such general empowerment in the environment benefits all in the end.

These are not an unfounded view or wishful thoughts in my experience, though people will have different experiences.




That's a very narrow view of the world, friend.

It's dangerous to presume that you have such a deep and wide perspective that you can instantly diagnose something so thoroughly.


Sorry for thinking and sharing my experience.

Just go back to being socially anxious then!

Nevermind other explanation models or opportunities.

I've updated my comment to attempt to clarify the meaning better, in case that was miscommunicated.


The older I get, the more I realize that we really haven't figured out anything at all.

We just make up or prescribe to a set of rules that help us cope with that as best as possible.


That's intentionally or unintentionally very insightful. We are the product of our environment, which is infinitely more powerful than us, so we have to adapt it wisely or perish.




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