Some of the bigger communities are sadly like that, intolerance of non-conforming opinions seems to correlate with gaining critical mass.
If (big if) that’s true, then San Fran would be at the extreme in terms of having a queer community so large it can ‘afford’ to ruthlessly exclude as you experienced.
Likewise with diminishing religious groups becoming more tolerant and welcoming.
Then again, some of the teeniest subcultures are notorious for elitism, maybe it’s a bell curve.
If (big if) that’s true, then San Fran would be at the extreme in terms of having a queer community so large it can ‘afford’ to ruthlessly exclude as you experienced.
Likewise with diminishing religious groups becoming more tolerant and welcoming.
Then again, some of the teeniest subcultures are notorious for elitism, maybe it’s a bell curve.