Once again you’re seeking to refute the existence of a small but significant number of cases by pointing to overall averages and trends.
It’s a significant enough phenomenon that media articles are written about it, academic studies are done on it, a scientific term has been coined for it, and multiple websites operate to facilitate it:
None of this contradicts your assertion that “people after prison have huge problems getting back to life including finding partners” - but that’s not a refutation of what I or the original commenter are arguing.
The article does not say significant number of prisoners finds love that way. It says literally: "It does occur - but as Cavendish points out, these instances are rare; [...] In short, the fantasy of these type situations rarely match the reality."
Article says the service exists and also that many those who write letters dont seek partner. (And also, I know about program where males write with prisoners and it is not about them being gay).
Quoting article: For those who instigate and sustain a relationship with a man imprisoned for a lengthy period of time, physical contact is obviously limited. They often never progress beyond the courting stage.
Yep, I read the article. Nobody said it wasn’t rare, or that many interactions that happen while the prisoner is inside turn into relationships after release. It’s a question of whether these interactions, or subsequent relationships, happen at all.
Anyway, we’re clearly in futile territory when we’re debating the definition of words like “significant” in a topic that has nothing to do with the article posted, so I’m certainly done here.
For the record I still don’t think it’s a helpful thing to point out to someone with a worsening disability; as the article and other commenters have pointed out, people who want to interact with prisoners have particular motivations, and they likely won’t apply to people with disabilities.
The blind man up thread wanted actual relationship, not just some communication over letters with someone who pitty you that ends soon.
It is not that he does not have chance. But common, it is harder for disabled people of both genders.
And yes, this thread made prison relationships sound way more probable then they are. It is much less convincing argument that "it is not entirely impossible and some few people can find relationship as prisoners".
And from discussion people did seemed to buy the "significant amount of prisoners get love" argument in it. Even speculating about women finding safety in ot or "liking bad" guys. Both very wrong conclusions.
I don't find that obviously true. Not obvious at all. And the more I look into it, the less probable it is.
Peoplw after prison have huge problems getting back to life including finding partners.