A lot of the suggestions here are answering, "how do I argue more effectively". Some are suggesting to consider argument futile (to varying degrees).
Mostly, I want to argue when I'm angry with someone. Online, I'm becoming less and less interested in discussing/arguing with people I've never met, such as yourself. Far too often, nothing comes of it but more anger.
Slightly more interesting is if there's a common forum or issue (ie: github), but most interesting is people I've met in person.
What I'm trying to do is ask myself, am I angry with this person? If so, is it really worth engaging them this moment? (Sometimes you need to--but offline is usually better for that.)
If I do have rapport with them, and I can address my anger first, then there may be some usefulness in responding to them. But, I don't want to contribute to America's 24/7 outrage culture any more.
If you're interested, I wrote a little more about this here.
Mostly, I want to argue when I'm angry with someone. Online, I'm becoming less and less interested in discussing/arguing with people I've never met, such as yourself. Far too often, nothing comes of it but more anger.
Slightly more interesting is if there's a common forum or issue (ie: github), but most interesting is people I've met in person.
What I'm trying to do is ask myself, am I angry with this person? If so, is it really worth engaging them this moment? (Sometimes you need to--but offline is usually better for that.)
If I do have rapport with them, and I can address my anger first, then there may be some usefulness in responding to them. But, I don't want to contribute to America's 24/7 outrage culture any more.
If you're interested, I wrote a little more about this here.
https://medium.com/@bjt2n3904/mass-shootings-dealing-with-ha...