It is not that bad, if you do not want to feel pathetic spending tons of time and money taking great pictures/swiping/having many fruitless conversation/paying for boosts or swipes, the path of lowest resistance is to just get fit, which also has a lot of other benefits.
I had only limited success with online dating, even though I had hundreds of matches and used it somewhat regularly for probably 2-3 years I only went on one pretty bad date + one actual success which was just someone I knew pretty well IRL who used tinder to express that she was interested in me. I didn't have great pictures or pay for special features or anything because out of principle I felt that was participating in a complete bastardization of a pretty fundamental part of human life, finding a partner.
Rather than continue wasting time or do something I loathed, I just deactivated and deleted all the dating crap and started lifting weights. It has without a doubt been a better use of my time
I had only limited success with online dating, even though I had hundreds of matches and used it somewhat regularly for probably 2-3 years I only went on one pretty bad date + one actual success which was just someone I knew pretty well IRL who used tinder to express that she was interested in me. I didn't have great pictures or pay for special features or anything because out of principle I felt that was participating in a complete bastardization of a pretty fundamental part of human life, finding a partner.
Rather than continue wasting time or do something I loathed, I just deactivated and deleted all the dating crap and started lifting weights. It has without a doubt been a better use of my time