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>do you have any fun plans tonight/weekend?

>So where do you work?

It basically doesn't matter. I sometimes do the awkward, "hello I'm Michael, what are you doing this weekend?"




I'm usually friendly to strangers but I'd be immediately suspicious of someone asking me either of these questions out of the blue - and I'm a middle class, middle aged male.


It might be a cultural thing but yes, here in Europe I would be pretty suspicious of someone approaching me like that out of the blue. I mean, heck, that's none of your business!?


Smokers always have a reason to start talking to random people.


That's fine. Not every conversation turns into friendship.

Most of mine I am trying to find similarities or learn new things.

After the conversation is over, it won't matter how you opened, it won't matter if the person felt suspicious. I can't control your upbringing or your day.

You either are friends, or you likely won't see them again.

No one died.


A compliment or a question is usually a good way to start. "Oh hey, nice shirt, have you seen that band in person?"


lol I went to a local music venue a few weeks back and tried this. After inquiring about one guys shirt, he started at me for a few seconds like I was insane and turned around


If someone at a concert acts like you've insulted them by asking about their music related shirt, then the problem is with them, not you.


This is precisely why I don't feel bad about asking innocent questions.

If they can't handle basic conversation, it's them.


Then you have the perfect opener for anyone overhearing by cracking a joke about it.




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