It's extremely difficult to find those around me with similar interests who actually have anything approaching 'spare time'.
Additionally, it's very difficult to be interesting without a diverse set of different friends and experiences to be the bridge between. As a 'natural leaf node' I find that I've been the first to get culled when others contract or otherwise shift their time allocations for higher priority slots in their lives.
The transaction cost of visiting friends is also affected by the size of metro areas, traffic/lack of good transit meshes, and the insane cost of housing. It often isn't worth leaving a small, opportunity isolated, corner of suburbia to meet someone else if it's going to take an hour or more one way for each trip; particularly if that's during 'rush hour' traffic hell.
Today's war for attention is insanity fueled by ad revenue and I feel like everyone's a looser in this war.
Additionally, it's very difficult to be interesting without a diverse set of different friends and experiences to be the bridge between. As a 'natural leaf node' I find that I've been the first to get culled when others contract or otherwise shift their time allocations for higher priority slots in their lives.
The transaction cost of visiting friends is also affected by the size of metro areas, traffic/lack of good transit meshes, and the insane cost of housing. It often isn't worth leaving a small, opportunity isolated, corner of suburbia to meet someone else if it's going to take an hour or more one way for each trip; particularly if that's during 'rush hour' traffic hell.
Today's war for attention is insanity fueled by ad revenue and I feel like everyone's a looser in this war.