An alternative point of view is that you set them up with an unsuitable question in the first place. Also, the disadvantage of stories such as yours is that we only hear one side. How did your "help" look like? We don't know.
For my taste the brevity and content of your story indicates a lack of introspection. It seems to me that the only option you consider is that the interviewee gets all the blame.
The reason for my suspicion is that independent of what happened there you should at least be aware that the story is not suitable to be shared in this form, because readers here only get your (very short too) story. Sure, you will get agreement - from people who jump to quick conclusions without actually having a basis for it. You are not even trying to give sufficient and/or unbiased information. I know this is just a forum and casual conversation, but to compare with science, which has the same issue of communicating one's ideas to other people, the equivalent would be a paper that only publishes the authors conclusions.
For my taste the brevity and content of your story indicates a lack of introspection. It seems to me that the only option you consider is that the interviewee gets all the blame.
The reason for my suspicion is that independent of what happened there you should at least be aware that the story is not suitable to be shared in this form, because readers here only get your (very short too) story. Sure, you will get agreement - from people who jump to quick conclusions without actually having a basis for it. You are not even trying to give sufficient and/or unbiased information. I know this is just a forum and casual conversation, but to compare with science, which has the same issue of communicating one's ideas to other people, the equivalent would be a paper that only publishes the authors conclusions.