On: How I negotiated a software-engineering job offer in Silicon Valley

[esoterica]

And if it costs you as much but you get paid way more, then you have way more money to spend on other shit. The math is not that complicated.

[burfog → esoterica]

Yes, you can save money if you are willing to live in a dystopia, crammed in like sardines. The quality-of-life comparison is not that complicated.

[esoterica → burfog]

Not everyone has been brainwashed by their suburban upbringing into believing that living in an apartment is “dystopian”.

[sershe → burfog]

Yeah, it's easy. Living in the burbs effing sucks.

[burfog → sershe]

It may, compared to rural, but it beats city life.

That is, it does unless you actually like stepping over homeless people and being mugged.

[sershe → burfog]

I think burbs combine the worst of rural and urban; it's still noisy and everyone can see you and there's often enough crime to not feel quite safe; but it's also soul very inconvenient in every way and you have much more house maintenance to do. And you get unique things like rural house work is sometimes combined with crappy HOAs enforcing same; and also unlike both rural and urban cases finding a place with good views / lots of open air is very hard. It's just literally hell made to raise kids. For every other purpose it's about as good as a HS building that you cannot leave is in the rankings of the good buildings to spend time in.