On: Running a Wall of Sheep in the Wild

[gsich]

>Maybe I’m a minority, but as a cis man I’d find a big public wall of porn in a conference disgusting. I’m definitely not against porn, but there’s a time and place for everything.

So which one is it?

[stephengillie → gsich]

What are some strategies for dealing with this sort of toxic reply? I also feel pornography has its place (alone or with 1 other consenting adult), and parent's refrain is sung far too often by other men.

[Falling3 → stephengillie]

>or with 1 other consenting adult

Why would the number of consenting adults have any impact?

[gsich → stephengillie]

Pointing out "I am not against X, but ..." is toxic now? There are many instances where this is pointed out instantly, so I do it here too. Just write the second part, without the "but" to stop contradicting yourself.

[detaro → gsich]

Saying porn isn't appropriate in some environments isn't the same as "being against porn" (=being generally opposed to it), so there is no contradiction.

[stephengillie → gsich]

Your reply is the toxic one, and you're missing GP's point.

[gsich → stephengillie]

Yeah I get that you believe my reply is toxic. You are wrong there btw.

It wasn't about the point in the first place, rather the "I am not against X, but <statement which contradicts X>" formulation.

[stephengillie → gsich]

You believe phones should only show pornography and no other apps should exist. Thank you for revealing your true character.

[gsich → stephengillie]

I am astonished how you even came to that nonsense.