> My free time is consumed by exercise and just spending time with my wife.
Plenty of learning involved with that. Spending time with you wife means constantly learning about her, and about you and her in tandem. Exercising means constantly learning about your body and the exercises you do, and the combination of those parts. Of course, it is possible to spend time with someone as well as exercising without learning anything, but it seems you a voluntarily involved in both, so my guess is that you are not resisting learning but are instead voluntarily learning :)
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy development and learning more about software development/architecture, but I focus that on what’s marketable.