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To succeed in Silicon Valley, you still have to act like a man (washingtonpost.com)
15 points by eevilspock on July 24, 2018 | hide | past | favorite | 7 comments



The quote that hit me is, paraphrased, "women have to play the part until they're well known enough to be themselves"

Yes, you have to act strong and confident or else no one from whom you need something will take you seriously. This applies to both men and women, in almost every walk of life. I fail to see a problem here. (Not in general, but that complaint is not well reasoned.)


To back this up from a non-founder perspective, I know lots of women engineers who feel pressure not to dress in feminine ways in the workplace. They're taken less seriously when they wear dresses (even the casual kind that match the usual tech level of formality), have to pitch their voices lower to be paid attention to, etc.

There does seem to be a pushback, though - women dressing femme-er as an intentional attempt to change the workplace culture.


I bet the pressure is even greater for men not to wear dresses.


You joke, but I know a game developer who prefers to wear skirts in the summer.

He's an indie game dev.


I understand why you think that, but I actually wasn't joking. I believe people should be able to wear what they like.

Good on your game dev friend. That's not an easy thing to do.

Pacific Islander men often wear what we in the West would call a "skirt". This is all just an issue of culture. Our culture isn't necessarily the best, and certainly isn't "the right way".

In the past I have worn a lava lava in the hot Queensland summer. It's great.

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/7a/6a/95/7a6a956128892187bba615ec6...


My apologies; I guess I'm too jaded from online discussions. I'm with you on that.


I don't think you have anything to apologise for.




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