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> That's an interesting definition of "trying harder".

See also: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16898821

> I think the person employing that strategy would quickly find that it doesn't work as well as some other ways of trying harder.

You'd think, but in practice, not always. Aren't humans amazing?

I think if we're being prescriptive, I think working towards a culture where all parties involved do both choosing and trying. Put forth the effort to get to know people, then choose who you want to be romantically/sexually involved with among the people for whom there is even a remote mutual desire.



The population imbalance in China/India is a separate issue.

>Aren't humans amazing?

I wasn't suggesting it's not tried. Simply that it's unlikely to be successful and thus will find fewer adherents.

>working towards a culture where all parties involved do both choosing and trying

This happens already. Women pursue men all the time, they just don't have to expend as much energy as men do.


> The population imbalance in China/India is a separate issue.

The observable consequences of this imbalance offers insight into human nature. The article and comments in that thread delve far into them.

It's worth reading.




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