He’s spent the last three years working in tech in a first-world country while waiting for a chance to work in tech in another first-world country, where he’ll have to not-get-deported for two whole years before he can really settle down.
Maybe I’ve grown cold-hearted over the years, but “emigrating to a desirable nation for a desirable job takes several years, during which I’m stuck in another developed, desirable nation” isn’t wringing out any tears on my end.
It took about that long for my family to come over in the 80s, and they were fleeing religious persecution in a shit-hole.
Do you have a website? Is your story documented anywhere? It's really powerful.