I'm finding this difficult to comment on so intangibly. Try and
suspend your convictions as stupid or empty the rest of this might
You really have to change your perspective.
For me, that meant making new memories. I struggled with the reminders
of that past relationship. It overlapped very many areas of my life,
there were a few I just couldn't avoid and many were dear to me. The
good becoming bad in that aftermath, it all seemed tainted by the
past, not going anywhere.
I took a new approach altogether in those areas, piece by piece.
Sooner or later I stopped having those initial and seemingly
involuntary attachments. I don't even recognise it anymore, but I do
still remember things and it isn't always bad. It does undo itself in
time, with that new perspective.
Those hard facts are a good thing if they are part of a process. Like
Our thoughts determine our feelings. You seem to have a great
awareness of your situation which has always been a good starting
point on many things for me. You can challenge your reality, the
present moment being based on what you're making of the past and not a
whole lot else (or so it seems).