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> I am guessing you haven't approached women much?

That's not really called for! The GP is right though; you're unlikely to be, say, given a slap or yelled at! This assumes, of course, your not being leery or crude and not asking them on a date straight off. etc. (where you will likely get a slap).

But there is nothing wrong with saying hi and having casual conversation with someone in the grocery store. 99 times out of 100 it will just fizzle out after a couple of seconds - one time in a hundred you might hit on a common interest and the rest, as they say, is history. I've met a number of great girlfriends in this way.

It's also a great way to get over shyness.

Also; you should talk to random people anyway. It brightens up their day and yours in a perfectly harmless way.

There is this social convention that we all must be silent and look dead ahead when queuing, for example. Everyone I know thinks it is silly but they don't want to be the first to broach the convention - just in case....



"That's not really called for"

Didn't mean it in a nasty way. And yes, actual physical attacks are unlikely as a response. Unfriendliness is rather likely, though. But if you have a hardened "shell", no problem. Or if you have become very adept at chatting.

Also, if those single girls at grocery stores are so desperate, why don't they make a move themselves?


> Unfriendliness is rather likely, though.

I'd say that is highly unlikely also. At worst you'll just get ignored :) but generally anyone will talk to you if you look and speak normal/friendly.

> Also, if those single girls at grocery stores are so desperate, why don't they make a move themselves?

Social convention. Also; this is the beginnings of a strawman because it's not like that at all :) the GP is just suggesting we talk to people more - which is always a good thing!


He said he knows scores of single women who are dying to be talked to.


Yep; which is why your point is something of a straw man - because it is the extreme interpretation of his point that doesn't stand up.


>and not asking them on a date straight off. etc. (where you will likely get a slap).

Can't you/couldn't a woman just say "no"?


Yeh, that referred to the crude bit - I was typing a bit fast.




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