Had first kid in my early 30s. Stopped hanging out with friends. Never been happier. My biggest regret is how much time I wasted on friends in my youth.
Right? I could not relate to the author's need for friends at all. I am mid-thirties, married with a young kid. The best thing about meeting my wife and moving in together is no longer having to go hang out with friends to get my social fix. We are both introverts, and don't need lots of 'hanging out' time with friends. We work, we come home and hang out with the kid, and spend some time together talking and planning our life. Then we spend whatever extra free time we have enjoying our alone time. It is wonderful.
I mean, I have friends. I play online games with some friends from highschool, I play basketball once a week with some friends from college, and we occasionally get together for dinner with coworkers and their families. We visit with family 8 to 10 times a year. I have no time and no need for the sort of 'hanging out' the author talks about.
I think a key tidbit the author mentions but doesn't focus on is that she is a military wife with a husband on deployment and no kids, and it doesn't sound like she has an office job (sounds like she writes from home for work) Of course she would get lonely then! Between work, wife and kid, and other family, I feel like I get plenty of socialization without needing more friends.
>I play online games with some friends from highschool, I play basketball once a week with some friends from college, and we occasionally get together for dinner with coworkers and their families. We visit with family 8 to 10 times a year.
I'm sure your former 'friends' would be thrilled to hear how much of a waste of time you considered them to be and how easily you were able to cast them aside.
