A good way to feel better is to think: Wait a sec, what kind of people are these girls? Most likely they are spoiled princesses with a massive sense of entitlement. They, perhaps are not worth much as people. Why is being rejected by them supposed to feel bad?
The problem this approach is that you're not committing the same fallacy they have: you have dehumanized them by assuming bad things about them in order to make yourself feel better. Case in point: "they're not worth much as people".
How are they "likely" to be spoiled princesses with entitlement complexes? How do you know enough to make even a wild-ass guess as to their worth as people?
I understand your point about it hurting less, but I think it's an unhealthy track to walk down. Dehumanizing people is never healthy, regardless of the end goal. Not to mention by doing so you've sunk to their level.
Not to mention you'd be missing the entire point of this post: " A real person, a lot like you "
In most cases I've known it to be "quite likely" and I found that I do know enough. You can't see the same kind of person over and over and not form patterns.
I personally think that you're wrong to think that everyone has the same value. Gandhi and Jeffrey Dahmer don't have the same worth. Dehumanizing or humanizing people is the same thing, only on a smaller scale.
Not everyone has the same worth, but that wasn't my point: my point is that by judging someone without any substantial information, you're committing the same fallacy that this woman probably did.
People have patterns - sure - but you don't really know this woman. You're writing her off as a spoiled, entitled princess after reading only a single, brief description of a single action.
It is the same as her writing off all of those men as losers without any examination.
It makes you feel better - I don't care if I'm judged by some spoiled, entitled brat, right? But how qualified are you to make this call? I'm inclined to think that any such judgments are really made for one's ego rather than based on rational observation. Now, if you've had a chance to actually talk with this woman for any substantial amount of time, and you come to the same conclusion, then fair enough.
