On: Why It Doesn't Pay to Be a People Pleaser

[reedlaw]

I can think of a few problems with this philosophy right off the bat. It doesn't give us much incentive to act politely. Also the first point reminds me of Sense and Sensibility when Marianne doesn't want to share her sadness with Mrs. Jennings not because she's a people pleaser but because Mrs. Jennings is not tender or sympathetic--all she wants is a supply of gossip.

[kross → reedlaw]

Honesty is not exclusive of gentleness and kindness.

[JoeAltmaier → kross]

There's an old saying: be kind so you can be truthful; be gentle so you can be honest