I'm sorry but that does not make much sense. Even if they don't "hate" their gay friends, they are pro limiting their rights and actually mandating on how they should live their life.
It is the very definition of being bigoted.
They're not perfectly reasonable, and they are not kind. They just like to think they are through a lenses that hides away some parts of the population.
Society at large is mandating the lives of everyone in ways that are much more serious and inhibiting than the inability to get married, so that's moot. Someone else's willingness to perform a religious ceremony on you is not a right. You could make the argument that married people receive benefits that unmarried people do not and that particular unfairness should be done away with, which is a very valid concern, but that was never the point. You stop caring about "rights" and "bigotry" when it no longer affects you or where it is deemed socially acceptable to do so - the single, the polygamous, the incestuous, they can get stuffed.
> Society at large is mandating the lives of everyone in ways that are much more serious and inhibiting than the inability to get married
That's a pretty bad comparison. Limits are in place to protect people's own rights and life. Someone getting married has no influence on someone else's life. Therefore it's an overreach and yes, it is bigotry.
The fight for same-sex marriages is not about religious ceremonies and you should know that. It's about having the same rights as other non-same-sex couples in regards to property rights, inheritance, hospital visit, etc. No one said otherwise.
It is the very definition of being bigoted.
They're not perfectly reasonable, and they are not kind. They just like to think they are through a lenses that hides away some parts of the population.
Edit: spelling