Yes, thank you! I've read a lot of the comments on here and you're the only one who's (seemingly) raised the question of whether what's written in this article is actually accurate in any general sense.
To me, it feels very sensational, exaggerated and very selective in its use of interviewees and their quotes to describe a specific type of online dating experience, and then projects that as if it's the average experience. It isn't.
I've used online dating, and a lot of my friends have and do - including tinder. Obviously you come across a few odd situations and people, just as you do in 'real life' but I have never come close to experiencing anything like what's described in this piece.
It paints an utterly depressing scene which just doesn't match up with my experience of online dating at all. For people who've never used Tinder, it's basically nothing like this, and it's not just my own experience or the way I use it - I've never seen any of my friends use it like the people in this article describe.
It's basically just another way to get chatting with people. I'm not saying people like the people in this article don't exist, but they're rare, and if you want nothing to do with people like this, all you have to do is not engage with them in the first place. If you do engage with them, then know that the consequences will probably be as depressing as this article makes out they will be.
The broad conclusions the people in this article draw about 'the online dating world' are simply not true for most people - they're only true for those who subject themselves to it. If that's not what you want, just don't, and you'll be fine. Problem solved.
> For people who've never used Tinder, it's basically nothing like this, and it's not just my own experience or the way I use it - I've never seen any of my friends use it like the people in this article describe.
Same. Most of the people I've talked to that use it experience a typical "funnel": a bunch of available people, a smaller pool that you're interested in, a smaller pool that's also interested in you, and finally a few dates that go from there. Not an orgyastic meat-market where all your wildest sex dreams come true.
I wouldn't be surprised if this is a piece crafted by a PR team hired by Tinder.
>I've read a lot of the comments on here and you're the only one who's (seemingly) raised the question of whether what's written in this article is actually accurate in any general sense.
It's possible to feel alienation to the people in the article while believing it is true. There most definitely are serial sluts like this in the world (both male and female), so it doesn't really surprise me.
Anyway, I imagine most people on HN have similar thoughts about these people, but thought it was too obvious to mention.
Also understand: this is NYC. There are 8 million people within 20 minutes transit.
I used to have a roommate who refused to sleep alone. He'd sleep with 10-20 people per month on a rotating basis. I know other people who haven't had a date in two years. To each their own.
Oh, good, here's my subthread. Yeah, total alienation just about describes it. Here I am, pretty happily committed and in love, wondering what the hell people are going on about casual sex apps for.
As someone who's been in a relationship for more than 5 years: totally! I dont think tinder even existed before I got into a relationship. Dating nowadays is so... weird.
