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People have become so incredibly needy of others approval and attention that some of us don't even function properly when being alone.

This makes us incredibly week as well, totally dependent on others to feel good.


Some people. Those of us who are quite happy to be alone, or even prefer it, cannot be noticed or included in these statements (by definition).


It seems to me like gregarious people and loners can be after the same thing. Some people want acceptance and approval from others whereas other people have more of an inner connection to the same source.

What is the source? We don't understand (yet) but it's an interesting clue that the things other people like about you aren't necessarily the things you like about yourself.


Even people who normally like to be alone tend to break down in various ways whrn they are really isolated for long time.

Needing to be alone after school or work is not quite the same as being alone 24/7 for months.


> Needing to be alone after school or work is not quite the same as being alone 24/7 for months.

Yes that is a different kind of solitude, this is more of a distinction between people who are part of society but with minimal social interaction, and those who seek maximal interaction and have some kind of dysfunction without it (e.g depression).

I'm more part of the former group, I don't usually seek out social interaction but don't shun it either. I enjoy interesting conversations with people but I never feel lonely in their absence. I suspect this may have more to do with what else fills a persons life, rather than some deeper psychological difference (or some crude dichotomy such as introvert vs extrovert as many probably attribute it to).


We are totally dependent on others to feel good. It is how we are wired as social creatures. Every single person, without exception, begins their life needy of another's approval and attention. The attention of others is how we construct ourselves.

Over time, we lose part but not all of that need, in different ways, depending on the interpersonal dynamic with our parents. A healthy person's end result is a healthy balance of dependence: too much can be limiting to a person's own agency, while too little means a miserable, lonely existence.

It's not weak to be dependent on others. On the contrary, it requires emotional strength — a strength which is built. Typically by families, but sometimes by close friends, caregivers, or significant others.


It's a good idea but it's adding manual work for the user.

I just block it all.


This is not true when you are writing code you haven't tried before. It's true for html, Css, devops stuff.

Or if you are trying to come up with an algorithm that is complex. Doing that in open office is impossible for me.


Unless you’re just reproducing a high fidelity mock-up from a designer, HTML/CSS work absolutely can include experimentation. And I’d argue that this is pretty important if you want web apps that are at all pleasant to use.


It's the largest downside with the job. I like programming at home but can't do it in an open office.

I switched to a job where I don't write complex code anymore. Now it's simpler, devops style things that can be done in noisy environments.


Call it Evasion OS. I think it's a cool name that has an "e" in it, and it's really about evading the massive data gathering going on.


May as well call it extraterrestrial os because no one on Earth is going to use it


That’s pretty brutal, I’m sure they will have a niche of users.


hahahaha


Someone felt I was wrong when calling Google creepy the other day.

My mistake. Why would facial recognition connected with Google be creepy. It's... "convenient". So convenient....to have Google help you provide that feature... Yeah.

Google. Not creepy. Sane.


> The Shape Detection API makes a device's shape detection capabilities available on the web, letting you identify faces, barcodes, and text in images.

This sounds like a boon for blind users. Your browser can now leverage device capabilities to interpret more than just text.


Like any technology it can be used to do good and bad things. Unfortunately in this universe helping blind people is a lot less profitable than snatching user face, voice and personal data to clone existing identities or build fake ones. In the modern Internet anything that can be exploited or abused will be; hence the mistrust. So thanks but no thanks.


I understand and welcome more alternatives to Lineage but what's wrong with their user interface?

If you want to make a better Lineage, I think having built in default app stores like Apkpure, encrypted system proxies, isolating apps from each other in better ways... Aren't those more worthy privacy oriented things to work on?


None of those will get you media attention, a successful kickstarter and funding, though.


I was using this but it didn't work well. They seem to have some performance issues when you search often, like 5 times in a minute and stuff like that.


I think people with a Google phone should just implant a chip in their arm, reporting to Google. It's basically the same thing, and you can view your body information on a Google dashboard and get Google advice on health care, along with a Google map to get there.


Many would and will when it's available.


Except for the 20% of users who feel that Google is not to be trusted and implant an Apple iChip for the premium experience.

In all seriousness, the percentage of people willing to forego using an Apple or Google smartphone (or any smartphone) to uphold at least some semblance of (digital) control over their life sometimes feels so low that it should be called a permillage.


Thank you for the vocabulary.


I guess it depends on how you view your phone. Is it your phone or is it Googles phone that they can update with whatever software and settings they want to.

The same debate is around Windows 10. Some people are fine with Microsoft getting a stream of privacy data from them. Others feel it's their device, not Microsofts.


It's your phone, and you voluntarily allowed Google to control it.

I didn't want Google to control my phone, so I installed LineageOS.


I'm also a happy LineageOS user, but it's not like they don't have a track record of this kind of thing either: https://www.androidpolice.com/2018/04/05/dont-freak-lineageo...


1. Wasn't remotely initiated.

2. Was announced beforehand, not snuck in.

3. Is open-source.


That wasn't initiated remotely, so I don't understand how it's "this kind of thing".


But you are one of the few tech-savvy enough to have alternatives. What about everyone else?


Without GApps?


Without gapps the phone is faster, and drains less battery.

If you mainly use a browser (Firefox, hopefully) and some messaging & mapping apps, works great.

If you want to use other apps, you'll have to do more testing.


Right. I know, and I run my device this way. But my point was just installing Lineage by itself doesn't free you from Google's clutches if you install GApps anyway.



microG is indeed very cool. (though some apps stopped working with it in the past couple of months).


Without GApps.


Same here. No issues, works great.


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