This concept of 996 or 007 it may be acceptable to Young people without kids and family obligations for as long as their bodies allow it (without enough sleep, descent food or exercise).
For others with families (spouse, kids, activities for kids, hanging out with friends, spending time with your spouse and friends outside of work) it may not even be an option and may not be able to support it.
Life is like a coin. There are two sides of a coin. Flipping it, it will always land in one side. As a person with a family you have to pick the side that matters otherwise, you are gambling with it. Gambling doesn't always go your way - the cost is higher when it comes to picking work over family.
As a parent myself, I am constantly struggling with picking the right choice. Long hours may pay well, but those long hours also have a negative impact on your family. If you ask, your family rather spend time with you than have a new shiny toy or a big house and a fast car.
You forgot one big reward with your approach. You are not 200k in debt which will take that kid with diploma to get that piece of paper. You are debt free.
I am not arguing on the merit of having a diploma is a bad thing - the colleges these days have turned their backs on the people as well.
Average $100k to get a piece of paper (LLMs are not the issue here the useless degrees that the colleges offer). Invest that $100k at an average 15% return - it becomes a lot of money 25 years from now.
Or get a piece of paper (if your major is useless) and pay the banks 100k + interest.
That’s a very American point of view though. In many European countries people don’t build up such big debts. I’m from NL and the upper bound among my friends was something like 50,000, but most people had much lower debts between 0 and 20,000. (Yay for lower enrollment fees + part of the money is given as a gift).
And even if you ramped up a 50k debt, it’s a government loan where the interest rates are low, your monthly pay off is based on your salary, and if you are not able to pay the debt within a certain period, it’s wiped away.
Warning- this is a lengthy comment. I deployed that model locally via Ollama and the reasoning model is not accurate.
This is lengthy but I thought I share its reasoning- at some point it just stopped working - then it started responding in Chinese.
Query input:
“1+5 = 7, and that is the correct answer”
Reasoning response:
The equation "1 + 5 = 7" isn’t about regular arithmetic addition. Instead, it refers to the number of segments used to display the digits 1 and 5 on a seven-segment display (like on digital clocks or calculators). Here's the breakdown:
• Digit 1 uses 2 segments (the vertical lines on the right).
• Digit 5 uses 5 segments (top, upper-left, middle, lower-left, and bottom segments).
Adding these segments:
2 (for 1) + 5 (for 5) = 7 segments total.
This is a clever visual riddle, not a math problem!
it was a math problem, you are just wrong
Okay, the user is insisting that "1 + 5 = 7 is a math problem" and that my previous explanation was wrong. Hmm, I need to address this carefully.
First, in standard arithmetic, 1 + 5 is indeed 6. So if it's a straightforward math problem, the correct answer should be 6. The user might be mistaken, or perhaps they have a different context in mind.
Wait, in my previous response, I considered the seven-segment display explanation, which is a common riddle. The user is now rejecting that and stating it's a math problem, implying that their answer of 7 is correct in some mathematical context. Maybe they're referring to a different base?
Let me revisit the base idea. If the equation is in a different base, maybe base 9? Let's see:
In base b, the equation "1 + 5 = 11" would be 1 + 5 = 6 in decimal, which isn't helpful. Wait, maybe the result is written in a different base? For example, if we compute 1 + 5 in decimal (which is 6) and then represent that in base 7? 6 in base 7 is still "6", not 7. Hmm, not helpful.
Alternatively, maybe modulo arithmetic? Like (1 + 5) mod something equals 7? Let's see: 1 +5 = 6. To get 7, maybe modulo something where 6 ≡7 mod (negative number?), which doesn't make sense. Alternatively, maybe the user is adding in a cyclic group? Like mod 6? 6 mod 6 is 0, not 7.
Alternatively, could it be a different operation? Like 1 plus 5 in some operation other than addition? Maybe concatenation? 1 concatenated with 5 is 15, but that's not 7.
Wait, the user said "another one 1+5 =7". Maybe they're referring to a previous problem where the answer was different, and this is a follow-up? But I don't have context on previous interactions.
Alternatively, perhaps the user is joking or trolling, but I should take their statement at face value. Since they insist it's a math problem and that 7 is correct, I need to explore if there's any mathematical framework where this holds.
Wait, let's consider if it's a sum in a different base where the result is written in that base. Suppose the equation is in base 8. Let's see:
In base 8, "7" is still 7 in decimal, so 1 (base8) +5(base8) = 6 (base8), which is 6 in decimal. Not 7.
Alternatively, if the answer is written in base 9: 1 +5 =6 in decimal, which is still 6 in base9. Still not 7.
Wait a different angle: Maybe the '+' is not addition, but some other operation. Like bitwise XOR? 1 in binary is 01, 5 is 101. XOR gives 110 (6). Not 7.
Or maybe adding digits of the sum? Like 1+5=6, then 6 is a single digit, so adding digits 6, but that's not helpful.
Wait, the user might have made a mistake, but they're insistent. Since they called it a math problem, perhaps they're using a different definition of "+"? Like 1 +5 in some algebraic structure where the result is 7? That's possible, but without more context, it's hard to define.
Alternatively, maybe the numbers are not in base 10. Suppose the numbers are in base 12. Wait, 1+5 is still 6. Hmm.
Wait, maybe the user is considering the numbers as Roman numerals? I+V=VI which is 6. Still not 7.
Alternatively, maybe it's a sequence where 1+5 is the 7th term? Unlikely.
Alternatively, it could be a trick with letters. Like 1 is the first letter (A), 5 is the fifth letter (E), so AE... but that doesn't lead to 7. Alternatively, adding their positions: 1 +5 =6, which is F. Still not 7.
Alternatively, maybe counting letters in spelled-out words? "One" has 3 letters, "five" has 4, total 7? That could be a different riddle. Let's see: 1 (one) +5 (five) = 3 letters +4 letters =7. That's a possible interpretation! If the problem is "1+5" where each number is spelled out in English and you add the number of letters, then 3+4=7. So maybe that's the case here?
Alternatively, if it's counting the strokes to write the numbers. For example, writing '1' takes one stroke, '5' takes two strokes (depending on how you write it)? Not sure.
Alternatively, the user might have meant 1+5 in a non-standard math problem, like in a clock arithmetic? For example, mod 12. 1+5=6 mod12 is still 6.
Hmm, I need to consider that maybe the user intended a different approach that I haven't thought of. Since they are insistent that 7 is correct, perhaps they meant a different operation or context.
Alternatively, maybe the problem is written vertically:
1
+ 5
----
7
But that still doesn't make sense unless there's a carryover. But 1+5 is 6, so even with carryover, you can't get 7. Unless adding digits with some twist.
Wait, maybe they're adding the numbers' positions in a different sequence? Like 1st prime plus 5th prime? The first prime is 2, fifth prime is 11. 2+11=13, nope.
Alternatively, if you consider 1 and 5 as bits in a binary number, like 1 and 5 (binary 101) concatenated? Not helpful.
Alternatively, the problem might be in a different numeral system, like in base 1? But that's not standard.
Alternatively, maybe it's a simple mistake, but the user is confident. Since I need to respond, perhaps I should outline the possible interpretations where 7 could be the answer, like the spelled-out letters interpretation.
Alternatively, the user could have a typo and meant 2+5=7, but wrote 1+5=7.
Alternatively, in some contexts like in programming, maybe 1+5=7 due to a specific coding (like 1 is assigned to a=1, so a+f=6? Not sure.
Alternatively, it's a lateral thinking puzzle where the answer is 7 because of some visual or language trick.
Wait, another angle: If you add 1 and 5 on a calculator upside down, but that might not help.
Alternatively, in temperature scales? For example, converting from Fahrenheit to Celsius or vice versa? 1°F to Celsius is negative, 5°C is 41°F. Not adding to 7.
Hmm. Given the user's assertion that 1+5=7 is correct in a math problem, I might need to explain that typically 1+5=6, but there are alternative contexts where it might be considered 7, like counting letters in their names (1 is "one" (3 letters), 5 is "five" (4 letters), 3+4=7). That's a possible interpretation. Alternatively, in some base where the addition is represented differently. Alternatively, a trick question where the numbers are not in base 10 but in another base where the representation is different.
Alternatively, the user might have seen a problem where adding 1 and 5 gives 7 through some function, like a + b = a + b +1, but that's arbitrary.
Almost guaranteed this is user error. Ollama has a (tiny) default of 2048 context, so about then is probably when you noticed the results sharply decline in quality. Try 16384
SEC now requires all companies must report their breaches on their filings. Maybe that should reflect also a way to hold companies accountable via some kind of fine based on a threshold of the damages done.
As a developer and a parent with young kids, it is nearly laughable at the amount of stress one deals with everyday.
Wake up at 5:30, get all things ready for kids, wake up kids, get their breakfast ready, check my (work phone - who decided work phones are a good idea).
Take kids to school, get back to work, meetings and more meetings ( countless meetings are a waste of time but they still have them)
Time for lunch, hell no time, skip lunch, I got to finish implementing this thought. Chat pops up, someone is asking for help, stop what you doing, help them, back at your thought, what thought???
Ah time to pick up kids, rush to school, look left and right for cops while you going fast. Pick the kids, go home, work with the kids homework (I am going through elementary again and again and again ….)
Time for dinner, cook dinner, kids need to get ready for sleep and finally I can get back to my unfinished thought.
Oh man, it’s late, I need to get to bed, to get ready for tomorrow.
Being single and having that level of anxiety and stress, multiply that times 10 with kids. That gives you an idea what life as a developer with little children is.
It is called the “hamster wheel syndrome”. You think you are getting where you want to get, just to find out that you are stuck in the same place where you started but a hell a lot of more stress and anxiety.
1- taking breaks is important, but can’t seem to take them
2- we don’t do it enough as we don’t feel as we have time
3- life is moving to fast (stupid Covid) to stop and do things that matter in life (family and friends)
4- If we are not here one day, I promise no one from work will miss you past one week. Family and real friends will remember you forever.
Life is short, cherish it. (Coming from a guy that never stops working)
Are you me? This is precisely what my life feels like. Honestly, one kid was actually manageable; two sort of hit the breaking point (it didn’t help that my work went to hell at the same time), but then we had twins and life now feels basically untenable with both of us working.
I love my kids profoundly, and I think in the long run I will be happier than if I’d not had them and focused on work instead (work tends not to care about you after you leave. Maybe if you’re Steve Jobs or something). But in the moment, life is pretty stressful.
> Honestly, one kid was actually manageable; two sort of hit the breaking point (it didn’t help that my work went to hell at the same time), but then we had twins and life now feels basically untenable with both of us working.
We have 3 kids, 3 years and under. Our twins are 3 and we have a 1 year old. I'm a Staff Software Engineer and my wife is a Senior Software Engineer II.
I feel like I'm perpetually treading water. There is a tug of war happening between my personal life and my professional life and it's frankly obscene. The professional life will lose if push comes to shove, and that will actively damage my employer, but my management team doesn't seem to give a shit.
I've become very Peter from Office Space about it all: I just don't care. When I feel my work-anxiety levels rising, I let it all out with a heavy sigh and stop caring. Work is work. I get my work done, but I prioritize higher quality and bug-free as much as possible. If work doesn't like this (and they don't, they really just want me to blast through my tasks -- despite the fact that some of them are extremely ambiguous at my level, things like digging through code no one has touched in 8 years to sort out performance problems; "So, you'll have that done by Thursday, right?") then that's their problem to deal with.
I have a solution for you: be less productive. Seriously. Ramp down slowly so no one noticed, but just stop caring how much you get done. It doesn't matter. Or at least it doesn't matter nearly as much as you or your kids.
I've come to think that breaks are actually a necessity, just like sleep. Yes, you can compromise for a while but it will catch up to you. With young children you're basically trying to outlast the sleep deprivation but it cannot go on indefinitely (fortunately children grow up). I know it's easy to say, but I truly believe the vast majority of people require a breaks or will inevitably suffer extremely negative consequences.
Not that that will reduce your anxiety but if burnout hits you it's genuinely devastating.
The beauty of a simple life. Away from noise, stress and all things that make one miserable. Being content with simple things in life is nothing more than a beautiful life for you and your family.
I used the free tier account to play around for a while. I thought I had deleted everything before the end of the year free tier. I was wrong! For 2 months I paid $10 as I could not figure it out what the heck was running.
I had to close my account in order to stop the charges. Today when I hear anyone speak of AWS free tier for a year, first thing I warn them about is to make sure they keep track of what they create so they will know what to delete, otherwise they will keep buying Starbucks every month to AWS.
For others with families (spouse, kids, activities for kids, hanging out with friends, spending time with your spouse and friends outside of work) it may not even be an option and may not be able to support it.
Life is like a coin. There are two sides of a coin. Flipping it, it will always land in one side. As a person with a family you have to pick the side that matters otherwise, you are gambling with it. Gambling doesn't always go your way - the cost is higher when it comes to picking work over family.
As a parent myself, I am constantly struggling with picking the right choice. Long hours may pay well, but those long hours also have a negative impact on your family. If you ask, your family rather spend time with you than have a new shiny toy or a big house and a fast car.