Interesting technique, I could try this. But Im sure I have to practice a bit, I tend to land some terrible jokes sometimes, that I cringe about to this day XD.
When I do it, it’s always off camera. If I’m in person, depending who I’m around, if it’s close friends, I’ll just take it out and mess around with it. If not close friends, that’s where the fight comes in.
I had a professor once who I confessed to that I’ve read a paragraph more than 20 times and I don’t remember any of it, even after I just finished reading it. It was in a subject that didn’t interest me too much, and yeah, since I didn’t care too much about it, it was a damn fight to even sit there and get myself through that paragraph, let alone, remember it as there’s a battle going on in my head for attention.
The thing he said to me is something I’ll never forget, and that is, “when you’re going through that material that doesn’t interest you that much or at all, try and find figure out why the author of it found it so interesting. Why did the author spend their time and energy to research and publish this material? Look at it through their eyes and find their interest.” That reframing of how I go about reading has helped me more than almost anything else has.
Find ways to cope, reframe, and understand what feelings lead to what levels of inattention, anxiety, frustrations, etc…
Yeah, the annoyance to others is a big thing. I've had success getting stuff that is quiet and sits in my pocket. If you search on Amazon for ADHD fidget toys for adults, you'll find quite a few options. The one that works the best for me, is a little brass cube that has gears on each side. You can spin the gears easily in your pocket without looking , and it is completely noiseless. I also use it during video meetings where I can hold it off camera.
Whatever you do, when you are in front of people, don't pick something that makes noise :-) it will annoy almost everyone, but very few people are willing to tell you.
I've been taking ADHD medications for 15 years, off and on, and have never developed any dependencies. You may have to experiment a little bit to find the right medication and dosage, but I don't think developing an "addiction" should be a big concern for you. Ask your provider for the lowest therapeutic dose and stick with that for as long as you can. For example, I take 27mg of Concerta (a low-dose of long acting Ritalin) and I barely notice it, except for at the end of the day, I'm like "damn, I just cranked out 6 hours of uninterrupted productive work". If you are genuinely ADHD, it will feel like putting on a pair of corrective lenses for your mind, it's not going to feel like getting high.
I've been diagnosed with ADHD last year, at the age of 31, and been using methylphenidate since about then. It's not perfect, but it can be a good aid, especially in the beginning.
I was afraid too, because I am prone to get addicted quite fast, but the regular appointments with my psychiatrist and a good portion of will power seem to work. I try not to take it during weekends to slow down the tolerance a bit and to learn to live without it.
Can recommend/10. And as someone else has said here in the comments. It's sad but true, the world does not resolve around "us". So keep fighting, explain yourself where it's needed and try to find your path. It's very hard though
It’s worth reading up on ADHD from well respected sources, you may have preconceptions that are false - especially about the typical medication prescribed to people with ADHD.
Concerta or Ritalin, for instance, are not like some other mental health drugs where you have to take them regularly without fail to benefit. You can take it one day, benefit for that day, and not take it the next.
If you are worried about dependence, remember, you have a condition, you _need_ dopamine. If you don’t get it via a prescription, you will get it elsewhere. That’s what ADHD behaviour is - you are seeking dopamine. Maybe better from a pill than from narcotics, alcohol, or other antisocial behaviour.
It's usually hard to develop an addiction to these meds unless abused in higher dosages than prescribed. You're more likely to struggle with remembering to take them.
> Yes I'm hesitant to it because. Im worried about developinand addiction to it.
Are you worried about getting addicted to Tylenol? If you broke your femur, would you avoid taking prescribed medication? If you're going to the dentist, do you eschew nitrous oxide and lidocaine?
I mean, yes, it's a concern - people do develop addictions - but with a proper doctor, and taking it as prescribed, the odds are pretty low.
