Patient: "Doctor, it hurts when I do this."
Doctor: "Then don't do that!"
I'm finding that how you choose to use it makes all the difference in whether it's useful or not. I understand the reticence to jump on the hype train and it's taken some reps to find the parts of building with AI that I don't like and how to navigate it and keep it from making choices I wouldn't make or are low quality.
> asking for a recommended tech stack
this is up to you. you can just tell it what tech stack to use. better yet, bootstrap the project yourself and give it to AI as the starting point. nobody is saying AI has to make these choices for you and you're not allowed anymore.
> I wasn’t happy with some of them because of my own experiences in the past... Even when deciding against something for a reason, Claude Code tried to push me back on the suggested track.
this kind of sounds like many human teammates at work... you don't always like their suggestions or they aren't convinced by your arguments? the difference being with AI you can just tell it what to do, no persuasion required.
nothing about AI prevents you from thinking about design choices, architecture, data modeling, or even the minutiae if you want to. the only thing telling AI to do those things for you is you!
Came here to say Schwab as well. Caught me very pleasantly by surprise. It's easy to get a human on the phone, they are always very knowledgeable and get me answers fast. I've dealt with them on everything from bounced checks to wire transfers to self directed 401k questions, not one sub par experience.
Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing your story. Good for you for moving forward and moving on, glad it's working out for you. I've been in several bad situations, maybe not quite as bad as yours, and every time I get out I have nearly the same realization as you did - it just wasn't worth it. Whatever valid reasons I thought I had for staying were almost never worth the anguish and pain of sticking it out. I resent those people and situations too, and I try to fight it by remembering that resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies.
One thing I noticed you didn't talk about was what you tried to build? Did your learning have a purpose and goal of actually creating something - in other words, were you trying to actually build an app or tool or thing that you wanted to exist? Maybe you were missing an specific reason or purpose for your brain to put the pieces together beyond just "learning".
I am self taught and would have given up in short order but for the fact that I really wanted to build something specific (a web app that did something with text messages), I thought would be useful and therefore had reason to keep going even when I understood almost none of what I was doing. I used Michael Hartl's Ruby on Rails Tutorial and literally just copy/pasted his code until it worked without understanding any of it. It took me a very long time (many months if not years) to really understand the pieces and how they all fit together and then be able to apply that knowledge.
I've seen people with no experience do a month or two bootcamp and come away with a way better grasp than I would have, but they lack the real-world experience of applying that knowledge.
I'm working on changing careers. After 10 years of struggling to find the right role/company/environment in software dev or product management, I realized that I just don't like making software. Period. Made some good friends, enjoyed some of the work, learned a lot, got pretty decent at the whole SaaS thing, but I just don't like it.
That realization over the last couple weeks has been a huge relief. I'd like to explore some things I'm naturally curious about such as agricultural waste management.
I feel the same, but how do you change the golden handcuffs? If I leave the industry I’ll never afford a home. If I look at jobs online I’ve seen commissioned officers in the army get paid less than me. I feel trapped, the more I progressed in the industry the more I’ve grown to hate technology.
I don't have a good answer. the money and possible upside of future opportunities in software are probably the biggest things keeping me tied to this work. I keep coming back to these things when I doubt myself:
1. what kind of person do i aspire to be? what kind of life do I want to lead and what example do i want to set for my kids and my family? one who is miserable but makes good money and is just in it for the paycheck. or someone who lives a life of purpose, passion and enthusiasm.
2. people who are passionate, excited and invested in something can usually find a way to make good money. especially these days.
3. being less than enthused about what I do might actually be what's keeping me from finding more financial success
I'm finding that how you choose to use it makes all the difference in whether it's useful or not. I understand the reticence to jump on the hype train and it's taken some reps to find the parts of building with AI that I don't like and how to navigate it and keep it from making choices I wouldn't make or are low quality.
> asking for a recommended tech stack
this is up to you. you can just tell it what tech stack to use. better yet, bootstrap the project yourself and give it to AI as the starting point. nobody is saying AI has to make these choices for you and you're not allowed anymore.
> I wasn’t happy with some of them because of my own experiences in the past... Even when deciding against something for a reason, Claude Code tried to push me back on the suggested track.
this kind of sounds like many human teammates at work... you don't always like their suggestions or they aren't convinced by your arguments? the difference being with AI you can just tell it what to do, no persuasion required.
nothing about AI prevents you from thinking about design choices, architecture, data modeling, or even the minutiae if you want to. the only thing telling AI to do those things for you is you!
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