Def agree that consensual non-monogamy (CNM) != polyamory, and there's a loottt of confusion out there around that distinction (and in this article and this HN thread, too).
I might be poly for the right people at the right time, but I'm not currently. However, I'm definitely CNM for life because all I want is to talk it out!
Well, that, and occasionally hook up with other people
Good thing you figured out that non-monogamy simply doesn't work. Must feel good to finally get to the bottom of that! I'll make sure to inform the millions of Americans currently practicing it that you figured it out - simple arithmetic!
Indeed a wild generalization, but I can agree from many anecdotes that monogamous couples "going poly" is super super hard - much easier to start a relationship in a poly dynamic than attempt to transform one.
I use Fastmail which has CardDAV syncing, and generally it's worked great. One or twice I've noticed it stops syncing and I have to remove + re-add the sync profile, but generally speaking I've been pretty happy with the results.
I might suggest reading the text in question. Orwell's "Homage to Catalonia" will give a much more three dimensional view of "anarchism" than what we tend imagine from first principles. Even just the first few chapters are well worth the read: https://files.libcom.org/files/Homage%20to%20Catalonia%20-%2...
I think I get it, it's radical egalitarianism. It just turns out that hierarchical decision making works better for running complex organizations (e.g. an army), so anarchism (i.e. a vacuum of centralized power) nearly always leads to a warlord taking power. The US basically got lucky that Washington didn't want it and set a republican precedent for other colonial independence movements.
There is no evidence that hierarchical decision making works better for complex organizations.
It's possibly true, but there's no evidence it is.
I guess the question also depends on what is "better". Certainly it's better for those with authority, but it's very difficult to compare that with another structure.
> It's possibly true, but there's no evidence it is.
I mean, which leftist revolutions lead to a radically egalitarian society instead of an authoritarian? If there is one, I'd love to read about it.
"Better" as in, more likely to prevail in real terms. You can obviously go too far with that and paralyze yourself within a hierarchy, but some is better than none.
I might be poly for the right people at the right time, but I'm not currently. However, I'm definitely CNM for life because all I want is to talk it out!
Well, that, and occasionally hook up with other people
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