There's no mention of facial recognition or even webcam usage in the link. Yeah, it'd be gross if they were doing this, but... they aren't? It sounds like barely more than a chat app. What makes you think the app is using facial recognition?
> To the people downvoting me: what SHOULD happen to people who knowingly lie and accuse an innocent person of raping them when they later admit it was entirely fabricated?
Does it change anything for you to know that he did it during a psychotic episode? He's addressed it more than once on his blog [1], and I've seen no reason to doubt his account of things. He strikes me as genuinely recalcitrant, and the person he accused seems to think so as well [2].
Should enough people use it, it'll be yeeted into the dictionary and cease being a meme word. Language is like a living thing, it grows and changes.
Honestly, I'm on board with 'yeet'. It's versatile, playful, and is unambiguous as to what it means (transferring something quickly from one place to another).
Someone passive aggressively gives you with a backhanded compliment to set you up for failure. They stroke your ego, build you up in front if people, then offer a trove of BS that needs to be accomplished that only you are capable of accomplishing and makes it difficult for you to refute.
Instead of being pressured into saying yes, you quickly think about the information and ask a general question like, "well that might be possible, I'm personally not sure how, perhaps you had some ideas on how we can accomplish that in the proposed timeline?" and so forth.
If someone is marketing you a BS solution, you can usually dip down to a kernel of truth and quickly form a well crafted open ended question to ask how they address some problem their solution clearly couldn't. "With our application, you can easily interface with any platform" -- "that's awesome, how much effort is typically required to do that? Do you have example cases?" And so on.
You could also use an even more general/vague question similar to the one you just posed: asking someone to elaborate on something that's clearly BS usually catches them off guard if they were just making up nonsense and had no thought behind their statement. If they had some thought, it's going to be pretty clear. All that's needed is to pepper on some politeness to make it: "that sounds intriguing and thought provoking, could you elaborate on that idea more?"
These are benign on the surface but can be used offensively and without any clarity of the genuine intent to pass the BS baton around.
> He currently has fears that his turning away from religion may have been a mistake and that he could be damned to hell for this. He also fears punishment for compulsive masturbation, which he says he engaged in daily for ten years prior to his loss of sexual urges these last few months.
This reminded me a bit too much of myself. Never actively religious, unlike the author, I developed (pure obsessional) obsessive compulsive disorder in my teens and fixated on the nominally Catholic identity I'd been introduced to as a child. I was never happy about what little religion I had, but I came to the conclusion that it was absolutely true, and I took everything I knew about it to its (seemingly) logical conclusion. The years of shame, guilt and loneliness that I experienced as a result aren't something that I'd wish upon anyone. It's worth pointing out that my beliefs were far from mainstream, but if you'd pressed me on it, I would have insisted that no, I was right and everybody else was doing it wrong.
Thankfully, I got on antidepressants a few years ago, and anafranil works like a charm for me (Fluoxetine, aka Prozac worked as well, but I've found the anafranil to be more effective with less side effects. That's just me though, and there's no reason to assume it would be true for others). I can look at my past obsessions as deluded and wonder why many of the things that bothered me actually did. That, combined with regular cannabis use[1], therapy, and making extra effort to be critical of my thoughts and feelings has given me my life back. Despite covid anxiety, I'm in one of the best mental states of my life now.
I'm not advocating for anything here. I haven't discovered some sort of cure-all treatment, just a series of interventions that I've associated with improvements in my mental health. Talk to your doctor before trying anything, don't use cannabis if you have a history of psychosis (and start low if you don't, anxiety, paranoia, and possibly even psychosis in the middle of a mental crisis is the last thing you want), etc.
If there's a moral to this ramble, it's this: even if it feels hopeless, even if you think you're damned, you can't know for sure. I've improved, maybe you can too.
[1] My hypothesis as to why it was useful to me for stopping episodes of rumination is because of the way it reduces short term memory while high. It's hard to obsess when it takes effort to remember your most recent thoughts.
> I experienced this when I was climbing in competitive games. The first step was to get over the 'not my fault' mentality and transition to an 'I need to improve' mentality. I began by analyzing everything that I understood, and becoming more conscious and aware of the current situation, the available information and my mistakes and every game I was aiming to improve my play instead of winning.
This is what I've done recently with my approach to playing music. I'd always have described myself as very 'self-critical' of my musical skills, but this criticism was never more than "Ugh, this sucks. Try harder!"
What I've realized fairly recently (and wish someone had told me when I was much younger) is that my self-criticism wasn't constructive criticism. I was aware that I was unhappy with my performance, but I wasn't aware of why. Now when I'm not happy with my playing, I try to stop and think about exactly what it is that's bothering me about it. If it's multiple things, I'll just pick one to focus on and try to improve that. I'm still self-critical, but it's constructive criticism now, and that's something I can improve from.
The "not my fault" mentality you mentioned feels safe, because if someone believes there's nothing that could have done to change the outcome, then there's nothing that might make them feel bad[1]. Of course, sometimes things really aren't your fault, and believing there's something you could have done when there's in fact nothing is also a problem. There's a balance to be struck between the two perspectives.
[1] I'm not saying they ought to feel bad, just that I think it's common experience to feel bad when we don't achieve our goals, and worse when we think of something we could have done differently.
Indeed it is difficult to strike a balance. It is especially important to reward and be proud of, at least relatively, good plays and moves, as well as novelty. The former has shown to be more effective than the opposite, while the latter, imho, expands the 'branches' of our internal decision trees as it increases our toolbox.
