The goal of all life is to make more life, is it? Not everyone wants kids. Is it my duty to be able to make kids? But what about my autism and mental illness? I thought that people didn't want people like me making kids. Or is it all about my usefulness to cishet guys? A woman is, after all, just a tool.
Remember, you asked if "there'd be no controversy." I'm just examining the controversy, not universal truth.
I didn't tell you that you need to want or have kids. I do believe your life will have been pointless if you don't, but you're free (and likely) to disagree with that. Personally, I think "eternal life" as promised by some religions can be analogized as reproduction. If you think you've identified another biological purpose of life, that's good for you.
I don't know why you'd bring sexism into this; it takes two, and both sides are just as valuable. Having biological kids with someone means your DNA's going to be stuck together as a new person, so you want it to be someone you care about. It almost sounds like you're transgender yourself, but most transgender people I've spoken with about the topic would be thrilled to be able to have kids, especially MtF folks on the topic of carrying. I've certainly heard some say they don't care about it (and they have to come to peace with that, regardless), but I haven't heard of anyone saying not being able to is part of their identity.
This right here is part of the problem. You identified that I don't agree with you on the current state of things and picked a fight, rather than agreeing on working towards a place we'd both be happier with, anyway. (Or are you saying you specifically don't want transgender people to be able to have kids? Do you think there'd be something wrong with it if they were able to?) This entire line of argument would be irrelevant if science got to that point. But political and medical will is stalled arguing about half-measures instead. I know science is slow, but I just hope there will come a day when people can make decisions about their bodies without loss of reproduction being a concern-- and not talking about it won't get us there faster.
Your questions about autism and mental illness falls under "eugenics," which is kind of one of the major discussion points of this entire thread.
