I recently started using "Clear-Site-Data" and it's been a neat addition. I just create a single endpoint on my site or API domain and make a page or method that returns this header. There's all kinds of utility in having this.
Random parenting tidbit: I have two kids, and they had tantrums. When it was spiraling I took them outside. I have found the sound of nature calms them, weirdly. The change of setup maybe helps.
This is sorta the logic behind time outs, which literally are supposed to be "time. out." Remove them from the setting where they're misbehaving, into an area where they can have big feelings safely but aren't exposed to stimuli which might intensify the tantrum. Eventually the feeling goes away because there's nothing to feed it.
Same. The rocking chair on the porch saved us countless number of times. The sounds of the neighborhood, the bicycles, cars,the wind, the lights of airplanes, learning about the neighbors brought her comfort and allowed her to fall asleep.
Oh yes, I live directly next to a wild river valley, so just opening the window and hold them next to it would have (literally) cooled them. The wind, the sound of the water, the cool breeze.
And if this was not enough, carrying them with a manduca on the back or front and walking outside was always working. Also sometimes in the middle of the night, giving the mother a rest.
Now that they are bit older (and heavier) I only do this rarely. The trick is to have been outside enough with them in the first place. And if their head gets hot - literally cooling them with some water on the head helps very much.
Two kids having some kind of competitive tantrum is so much more difficult than just one kid having a tantrum. They set each other off over and over in some kind of fucking feedback loop from hell. Sometimes the only strategy that works is to get them separated ASAP any way you can, which can be really hard if there’s only one grown-up home at the time and the kids’ bedrooms share a wall….
Two kids is just so much harder than one, it’s ridiculous. Like easily 10 times harder than just one kid. I have two boys aged 2.5 and 8mo, and I’m starting to wonder how any parent of two stays sane. Three or more must just be impossible. Can’t be done. My mother (3 of us under 4 years old) must have been some kind of super hero.
Anyone who has been through this, does it ever get easier?
Those are the tough years, yes. Hold on. When they're 3 and 5, it will be easier to get them to go in the same direction. Especially when everyone is potty trained.
I know what you mean. I’ve got two girls, 5 and 6, who love to fight over the pettiest shit. Like, when they’re in the car, one will yell “she’s looking out MY window!” “NO I’M NOT” “YES YOU ARE” etc.
The good news is that at their age right now I’ve been noticing more and more moments where they’re nice to each other, help each other out, etc. Still plenty of rivalry, but it seems to be on the decline in the past six months or so.
Totally agree. My wife and I have a 4 and 10mo and it’s brutal for us right now.
Juggling those two ages is tough for us because there is no overlap…they don’t play, eat, or sleep in the same ways so it feels like there’s a negative economy of scale.
You’re at peak insanity so just hang in there. It for sure gets easier but the issues change, you begin to have to convince and change minds vs just keeping them from nose diving off the back of the couch.
I have 13 and 11 year old boys which is pretty sweet at the moment. We talk about games, space, music, and other stuff. They’re old enough to have opinions and something to say but still young enough to see me as the most powerful being in their universe haha
I feel the same. Kids of 4.5 and 2. I can't say it gets easier yet. Two childrens are so much harder than one. And people told me the opposite, that the biggest change was having one kid and the next wasn't such a big step. That turned out to be completely false.
When we (the parents) take one child each for a day, it feels so much easier than even having both of us together dealing with two.
It gets easier. Because you get better at it. It doesn't feel like it now, but you're OK. Every month, every year, just gets a bit easier, and frankly, more fun.
To your point about 3 or 4 - again it gets easier because you get better. Going-out-bags get smaller. You discover kids are resilient. You learn to let go of some expectations.
Would derail the thread pretty hard and I'm not sure even which one to pick. But my favorite memory was walking the streets of Seoul and getting in a little street market. There was this kid who was the son of the shop owner, playing on a cheap Android device. Super into the last update we shipped. You could tell he was gonna sit there on the floor in the corner and this would be his day. I was suddenly so self conscious about how we made levels and updates. Until then it was just the next update at the office, we had to make it good and polished and respectful of the player. But now it was this kid's world, much like Super Mario Bros had been to me. It was important. It was a really humbling moment.
It would be wonderful if such stories were more prevalent and lauded in the overall industry: at the ens of the day, it's not about specific tech but about how we end up affecting concrete lives. Human-computer interaction as a research field is all about this; seeing the others' perspective. Sadly it's seems to be largely seen as niche activity by the wider community.
I'd argue it's the most important goal of all consumer software. It needs to be respectful of the player. To do that you need to really, actually care about where they are in their lives and what you can do to meet them. We had an expression internally: "surprise and delight". On a more personal level I've always loved Gunpei Yokoi's "lateral thinking, with withered technology".
That might be a good approach for games and other apps with a certain level of redundancy and competition. But the other approach is having a vital product with high vendor lock-in factor, then eliminating the competition and consequentially forcing down the throats of customers whatever is promising more profit (browsers, "big" ERP, ...).
That's just so sad to read. Yes, I'm aware there are alternatives to respecting users. You use apps that dgaf every day. I'm saying it's important to care, not just for yourself and your career and market share, but because there's a human who's living their life and you can make it a but better with a bit of effort. Besides the lack of empathy and respect for humans in your answer, there is also just a sadness in giving up trying to aspire to do better and just do a bunch of cheap tricks to win.
I think many of us would love to hear more. Not looking for gossip or anything, just good stories about some technical hurdle you've overcome, or a special moment like this one you've just described.
- Author reaction "Greaaaaaat, Microsoft wants to harvest more phone numbers."
- Author has a love/hate relationship with GitHub since 2012
- Author decides to not use GitHub anymore
I am not following the thinking process.
And you can use a 2FA app, without giving your phone number to GH.
I can understand the stream of changes at GitHub does not resonates with the author opinions, but the "Microsoft wants phone numbers" is wrong I think.
