Gentrification is often driven by young, gay men and "creatives" - communities who cluster together and want affordable houses. Once the neighborhoods is "cleaned up" and full of hip businesses, the chains come in and the neighborhood turns "family friendly". Finally it reaches that "doctors and architects" state and it's too expensive for the vast majority.
What would "forcing" look like? Typically forcing someone to do something requires power - political, financial, or other.
When engineers have something that managers or investors desperately want (e.g. Zuckerberg et al), then engineers have power. When engineers are interchangeable code-monkeys, then managers and investors have power. Of course, engineers could band together in a labor union to increase their power, but managers and investors don't like that very much, and that generates a cat-herding problem.
see from the outset that they will have to work twice as hard to be only equally respected in the industry
When I work with females who do the work, and don't turn into weird drama queens, they get equivalent respect and reward as the guys.
People sometimes get afraid that a female will not be normal at work, and instead reveal herself as some kind of angry, complaining, entitled SJW who believes she is entitled to unearned respect or accolades. (To be fair, guys can show this too, but usually they are shut down faster and harder, because they don't have the "but I'm a girl" card.)
I'm not saying my personal beliefs - I'm saying what others are taking issue with. The Thought Police are taking issue with it being a "Frat Party" because it "excludes women and makes them feel unwanted".
I agree - I think the backlash is because "frat party" is supposed to exclude women. Never mind that "frat" refers to the location, and not the attendees. Any actual "frat party" that I ever attended in college welcomed women with open arms.