shrug I will always bottom-post when context matters and always top-post when I expect the reader to know the context implicitly. And I will never read an email chain that requires me to start from the bottom and work my way up.
What a silly straw man argument. No doubt why it is the #1 comment. If I write a particularly effusive post about my love of dogs--how I care for mine meticulously and spend time researching the best toys and vets and so forth--am I celebrating Dogism to the detriment of what is "ultimately important?"
The irony of this comment is that your strong discounting of Dustin's point of view is the exact same as your equally strong support of your own. In the same breath you deride him for "being" a materialist and define yourself as "being" the opposite(?) of one. There is no ultimate truth to what is or isn't important in life. What is important in life to you appears to be other people--and strong identification with that position. Maybe Dustin also values other people. Maybe he identifies more with the point of view he presented. Maybe he cares for neither and thought it would be a good story. Who knows. The real question is, why do you care so much?
If your wife is anything like me—and her symptoms are identical to ones I had during an earlier stage of my depression—then they are real and should be examined. Even if they never worsen, they are needless anxieties to carry around.
There are no external problems. Everything is as it is; we choose to interpret the stream of input as problematic, or not. Sometimes we inject falsehoods into the stream ("nobody likes me") to nurse our fear.
It isn't necessary for your wife to live every day peering over her shoulder. Nor convincing herself that her friends and coworkers dislike her. Nor experiencing any of the other anxieties she no doubt simply takes for granted. As someone who carted so many around for not less than a decade, believe me: they're not worth the luggage fees.
I can't overstate how important I think these sorts of habits are. A slow walk. A quiet meditation upon waking. In aggregate, they can really change your life. The problem is, these habits aren't easier to develop than any other. They take practice and time to become innate.
We "make time" for all sorts of destructive habits. I gave smoking hours of each day for a decade. Anxiety, worry, hurry, they'd run my life for more than that. Don't set out trying to replace them. Make it OK to be a few minutes later walking home; a few moments later to work. Make time for these good habits and the bad won't stand in the face of them.
Excited for the technical write-up as well. I've been building an app in Angular myself and I absolutely love it. Coupled with a REST-ish API library, it's a breeze in terms of testing and separation of concerns. After using Angular, I can't stand the circus of "server renders HTML that includes JS that has server return JSON that's handled by JS that has server render this other thing..."
I was reluctant to setup two-factor for a long time, perceiving it to be an unnecessary hassle. Then somebody tried to gain access to some of my accounts through my Apple ID. They were unsuccessful (I don't have any common passwords these days so managing to send a password reset to my GMail wasn't terribly helpful) but it certainly made me paranoid enough to switch.
I currently have two-factor setup on two accounts. I won't say there's no hassle involved--authorizing a machine via SMS so that I can login and generate an app-specific password is a chore--but the peace of mind is well worth the hassle.
Did you also know that you can re-assign your Apple ID to an existing e-mail address? Like, say, one you have two-factor enabled for? Now people can socially engineer Apple's flawed policy all day but they'll need to steal my phone, too.
EDIT: Also, if you don't have backups, you might as well just delete everything yourself right now and use that as motivation to prevent the same thing from happening again. Hackers, tornadoes, spontaneous combustion and ghosts are all conspiring to destroy your data sooner or later.