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Interesting - I've used Standard Notes since 2019 and, more recently, become a Proton user. Both products have a similar, well designed, feel and make encryption easier to daily drive. SN in particular is just a really well-designed notes app.

After being burned by acquisitions in the past, I sincerely hope we see both products improve each other.


We have the same timeline and general opinion — BUT SN has shown several serious bugs over the years … one of which locked me out of my account at a very inconvenient time, and support was responsive but ultimately could not help. Another thing I’ve seen is a password-protected file will display its contents for 1 or 2 seconds before being obscured and asking for a password. These have given me pause as to the robustness of the security of SN. Hopefully Proton can put some attention to these issues.

Hi! Can you email Standard Notes again at help@standardnotes.com for the latter issue about a password-protected file remaining open for a few seconds?

This one is pretty good too: https://git.btxx.org/pblog


Thanks! The only "issue" with pblog for what OP is requesting are the dependency requirements (ie. pandoc)

Live demo for those wondering: https://pblog.btxx.org


This guy also has a post about the hierarchy of socks and underwear which resonated with me.

https://tomlingham.com/articles/an-unfortunate-hierarchy-of-...


There's a sci-fi book I read a while back that had as a plot point an alien species that had algorithmically optimized its decision-making processes so much that it was no longer recognizably conscious. I think about that now and again when I get a little too invested in some system or practice.


Was it good? Do you have the title?


It was! The whole book plays a lot with various types of consciousness. Although that was a bit of a spoiler, so out of respect I'll give a somewhat obfuscated link and just say if you're reading something by Alastair Reynolds right now you should consider that before following the link:

https://openlibrary.org/books/OL26809698M

(Reynolds' got enough books in his bibliography I don't feel like I'm spoiling anything by mentioning his name - I suspect I could come up with any random plot point and he's probably written it in somewhere)


Ah, I thought this was going to be Karl Schrœder's Permanence, in which (unless I'm confusing it with a different book) a background point is that consciousness is only really useful in some niches, and most spacefaring species eventually lose it.


John Varley had a short story with that idea, too. A spacefaring race that is only conscious when needed. Good sarcastic lecture about how consciousness is overrated by those who have it.


Probably _Blindsight_ by Peter Watts


It was not, but that was also an absolutely fantastic book. I don't remember the sequel, Echopraxia, being as good, although there's a couple plot points from it that I do remember as weird ideas.


they may be referring to blindsight by peter watts


Interesting how different people's minds are.

I find the exact opposite problem, I go with old faithful over new.

It's for this reason that when I put my clothes away I simply take the stack of clothes in my dresser out, put all the fresh stuff on the bottom, then put the clothes that were in the drawer stuff on top.

I always grab the top sweater, t-shirt socks etc and I don't think about it at all.


FILO is not the standard method of maintaining one's stock of clothes? How else does a person mange wear leveling?


My process:

1. Buy ~15 copies of everything.

2. Not think about what to wear! Everything is roughly the same.

3. Throw out everything every ~3 years. A couple of months before that, start buying new models of clothes to find the best one.

4. Goto 1.


> A couple of months before that, start buying new models of clothes to find the best one.

This is so important. You'd think that manufacturers would just keep the same stuff for sale all the time for all time but it doesn't work that way. Lands End comes close for button shirts and wool trousers, but that formality level is wasteful for work from home.

Edit: At first the 15 copies seemed excessive since only 7 are needed for weekly laundry, but basically you can get 2x longevity out of the stock based on laundry wear.


Yeah, I'm absolutely pissed that New Balance had stopped making my favorite model of sneakers. I bought the last 5 pairs of them from a seller on eBay. Like, a model is great and it sells well, why would you stop making it?!?

> Edit: At first the 15 copies seemed excessive since only 7 are needed for weekly laundry, but basically you can get 2x longevity out of the stock based on laundry wear.

1 week of clothes does not provide enough safety buffer for forgetfulness and procrastination. Also, travelling.


Shoes and glasses frames are the worst for not being able to just buy the same thing for all time. Glasses have gotten better since I was a kid but shoes worse. I’ve given up on shoe aesthetics since Mizuno makes upgrades the same model with different colors. Looks like the current version of Wave Rider is 27.

Edit: Regarding total stock of clothes: this is a tricky balance between storage and wash cycle. Ideally I would do laundry nightly for day clothes and daily for pajamas so that no storage was necessary. With ~7 days storage already seems excessive since most days of the week there is more dirty than clean. It also only requires one load of laundry. With ~14 days that is twice the storage and while there are fewer batch operations there doesn’t seem to be a time savings since it would require two loads . . . Wait, do you scale in parallel by using a laundromat?


Lol, since we're going down this road... my clothing ends up getting stored more as a cache with an LRU policy. Every 6 months or so the items at the bottom of the drawer get assessed for eviction (donation). My favourite items are always on top, less used items are easy to find, and the unused items are easy to identify.


This is a much more efficient approach than Maria Kondo’s suggestion to hold each item up and determine its joy factor.

Do you not procure multiple copies of items that have a high value assessment?


I mean… I’ve got a bunch of fungible black t-shirts from Costco if that counts. They fit reasonably well.

There are a bunch of more expensive unique items too. I do actually find it a bit interesting to see which ones float to the top and which ones don’t.

Funny you mention Marie Kondo though. I do roll my clothes instead of folding them before putting them away into the cubes. I don’t entirely get it but it seems more space efficient that way.


Jeans get memoization! Wear them again before washing until something changes (e.g. spilled something on them) with an expiration time (e.g. 3 days or laundry day).


You shouldn't. If you successfully manage wear leveling all you've done is make sure you have to replace your whole stock at the same time, as well as depriving yourself of regular reminders of what new-ish clothes should look and feel like, leading you to keep wearing worn-out clothes.


> If you successfully manage wear leveling all you've done is make sure you have to replace your whole stock at the same time

I've been doing this for decades, but have never encountered this problem. I think because of a combination of the fact that I didn't buy my entire wardrobe all at once to begin with and that different clothes wear at different rates.


If your clothes are wearing at different rates then by definition you aren't wear-leveling.


I guess it depends on what you mean by wear-leveling. I interpreted it as wearing all of your clothes about equally as much.


With socks, wear levelling is actually really useful. I tend to buy a whole rotation of identical black socks, and then I don't need to pair them up individually. Also, buying 15 pairs of socks in one go isn't going to break the bank.


Wear leveling socks is a critical challenge for me. Unlike larger clothes, socks don’t stack easily, so defy conventional methods of stock rotation.

How do you approach this? Would it make sense to buy one of those shelf springs that grocery stores use to keep boxes towards the from of the shelf?


You need "Socks as a Service" (we could call it "SaaS") - every day someone drops off a new pair of socks and picks up your previous pair.

If you pay for a premium plan then no multi-tenanting and only you get to wear any particular pair of socks.


That sounds intriguing as I like not deciding. On the other hand, I'm sure SaaS has some premium over buying outright. Since I already have the capital outlay of a washer and drier and weekly time blocked for laundry of which socks is a very small percentage, I'm not certain if it would make sense.

On the other hand, if there is a "complete casual work from home uniform" service, that might be worth it as long as some VCs are subsidizing it like its 2019.


Heck, anything is worth it if VCs are subsidising it like it's 2019.


But what's the use in that "useful"? When I pick up a sock and it has holes, I throw it out. When the drawer gets empty enough it can fit another package, I buy one. What utility would come from worrying about when I used a particular sock?


It can be hard to find the same model sock when you need to restock. Wear leveling and replacing them all at once eliminates difficulty with matching. Also, if you don't wear level, you may have one new sock and one worn sock, and that can be weird.


Another benefit of FILO is to fulfill the social convention of wearing different colors. I purposefully acquire different colors of items in order to avoid drawing attention to my apparel. Fortunately my spouse tells me when clothes are worn-out so that isn't a concern.


Seems like people should diet and binge to purge clothing of the wrong size at various intervals.


Simply pop from the bottom of the dresser.


That method seems like it would have more cumulative effort than loading the cleaned clothes under the stack once a week. Additionally, I would probably rumple the stack pulling something out from underneath.


I use a queue of stacks for each regularly used item type. Laundry is enqueued on one end of the drawer and popped from the other, with stacks slid over as needed.


I wear whatever makes me feel good.


Haha, funny. It was just yesterday that I listened to a german kabarett recording which featured the fact that women are driving consumerism. And he used the exact same example: "When does he buy new clothes? When you tell him to! He would keep his current set for a lot longer." (translated from memory)

Your linked article confirms the semi-humorous statement just a day later.


Ha this is great! I completely relate.

There was a YouTuber (WhiteBoy7thSt if anyone is familiar) I watched over ten years ago now that came from very humble beginnings, and when he started to make real money, his first splurge (and one he stuck with) was new socks. When I say new socks, I mean new socks most days, maybe even a new pair for every day of the year. These were normal white socks, not any nice wool socks, so it was still fairly cheap, but when he grew up, they always had beaten, old socks.


This hits way too close to home. This was the thing I was going to do when I was rich, and now that I make enough money I barely even wear socks, lol.


God, this blog post is hysterical. It reads like a David Foster Wallace treatment! Next time he posts something good, please -- someone -- submit on HN!


It is wonderful and terrible to get clothing as gifts.

it seems 99% of gift clothing has some sort of special care requirements.


That’s why I always buy a “full” rotation. :)


I use Kdenlive once a week for a quick top/tail edit. Always amazed at how well it runs on low-end hardware. Excited to see how the new version feels under Wayland.


IDK what your job title is, but 'helicoptered in to collect a recently landed spacecraft from the desert' sounds like an awesome day at work.


I don't really have a job description, I just solve problems.


That sounds worrying. Maybe they shoot you up next.

Awesome video you created! Looks like there is bad weather over half of the planet though.


Seriously muddy sneakers tho.


I laughed - looks exactly like the "playa stilts" you see after rainfall at Burning Man.



Windows: once a week or as needed.

Linux, whenever I feel like it. 117 days on a home server right now. 42 days on a laptop.


I worked at a wedding supply business during college and later as a photographer. I've probably been paid to attend a couple hundred weddings total.

It's a great way to see a wide cross section of people in a very stressful situation. Some people get so wound up on every little detail and even minor deviations from an unattainable perfection result in an avalanche of emotion.

Other people are totally chill and just there to celebrate something special with family and friends.

Either way, I can 100% see the need / benefit of having a professional (or seasoned wedding attender) in the wedding party. Someone who's seen some stuff and stays calm when whatever nutso thing happens.

Even perfectly reasonable, chill couples will have that one crazy aunt projecting expectations on everyone around them. Having someone close to the party who can identify and firewall the crazy can keep a wonderful day from becoming a stress fest.

Anyway, the professional in the article identified a real felt need she could address and found a way to get paid fixing it. Good for her!


My courthouse wedding over 20 years ago cost $75, had no showers, no attendants, no reception, and was memorialized only by a snapshot taken by one of the affable court clerks. I've never regretted it. The only way my spouse and I pulled it off was to keep our plans secret from our families. My mother-in-law resents me for that to this day.


My wife and I did city hall, but with the encouragement of my mother-in-law who thought it was it was smart and sensible. (And, it was, in fact, what she had herself done.)

I managed to persuade my wife and mother-in-law that could be fun to have a small celebratory reception for a close group of immediate family members, which we did three months later. Small and intimate, with 20 people, it was easy to pull off, and the official marriage details were already complete, so that was less pressure, and we could just focus on being present with our guests.

And three months after that, we had a small reception with friends, because I persuaded my wife that her close friends would enjoy a chance to celebrate and see her in "the dress". Which they did.

Splitting what would normally could be an overwhelming thing into three small parts removed a lot of stress, was cost effective, and also meant that the wedding gown got to be used three times, not once and then stored. Maybe not the best choice for everyone, but it can be a fun option.


Definitely support the "rolling thunder" approach to weddings vs "big bang" - our wedding years ago was in 3 different locations with 3 different groups (our kids are very multi-ethnic/national) over the course of a year and it would have been impossible to merge the 3 groups or expectations (we joked about "extending the tour" to other locations/groups but life intervened).


It's not for everyone, but getting the formal process over and done with and having a less formal party at a later date will probably save you a lot of stress and money.

Especially if you don't tell the venue that it's a special occasion...


A huge portion of men would fine with this and wouldn't regret it either, but it doesn't happen that often for obvious reasons and likely never will.


There's a comment right above yours from a woman who seems to disagree with the brush you're trying to paint her with. Maybe the generalization isn't particularly appropriate?


Are you familiar with what "often" means?

For sure some women are ok with a court house and walking into a restaurant after without reservations.

But not so many that you'd hear about it happening often.


To each their own. Some people enjoy giving parties, and then it's just another reason to throw a big party.


Then do a party. Or 3. It will be still cheaper, because anything in context of wedding makes the cost increase 5 times.


I think this is easier said than done. You can certainly save enormously by skipping a lot of the traditional stuff (nice meal, music, cake, attire, photographer, etc.) altogether. But there's a reason those things are popular. A nice meal, music, and dancing make a great way to include multiple generations (toddlers to elderly) and people who don't necessarily know each other well (and don't share interests) but are nonetheless important to you. Throw in a photographer because these events are often a treasured (and rare) source of extended family photos and you've accounted for most of the cost of my own wedding, which was about average.

We looked for options to save by having a 20% "less nice" meal or a 40% "less good" photographer, but broadly speaking, those aren't really levers that we found. I guess you could try to lie to vendors and tell them that the music is for a retirement party and that they're going to be photographing a family reunion and hope they charge you less? I'm not sure the extra cost is as unreasonable as it sounds though. We were far from trying to "get every detail right", but we did want the stuff we paid for to show up. Just "showing up" with high probability is a substantially higher level of service than I get from most contractors/vendors/etc. that I've worked with more broadly in my life and I'm not surprised it would cost something.


actually, the key word is the word "wedding"

you can have a party with roses, cake, dancing, food, photographer, and as long as it is introduced as a party (and not a wedding) there's research that suggests that on average, you will pay much less to all the contractors.

So start your bid with the word party, and see what happens!


The wedding tax is basically insurance - you're paying through the nose to ensure absolutely nothing goes wrong. From the contractor's side, at least; the behaviour of your guests is a different matter.


In some cases, yes. In others... my wife tells me a bride will get overcharged less for the same hair styling if she says she's going to a wedding as a bridesmaid. Doesn't avoid the wedding tax, but at least gets a discount.


Debating with men that a minimalist wedding will suffice is pretty humorous; these aren't the people that need convincing or dominating the demand for extravagant weddings.


Weddings (and any other tradition/ritual that requires sacrifice) are also an opportunity to display a level of commitment to a broader tribe.

Regardless of one’s philosophies, playing along with the broader group’s traditions and spending something (time/money/effort) to do it is a signal to the others for how invested you are in a particular group of people.

Obviously, like anything else, it can be overdone. But it is not without value, and there is a reason wedding celebrations came into being in cultures around the world.


I like the idea of the party being separate, so many of them the bride and groom aren't at the party too long as they disappear to spend time with each other.


My wedding was the only time in my entire life I had every person I love together in the same room. Worth ten thousand dollars or more.


So it's all about you?


It's also a rare opportunity to get wholly disjoint sets of people together, all of whom presumably also love the bride and/or groom.

It's a neat way for people to meet each other who wouldn't otherwise and for them to find out what they have in common besides the happy couple.


Many of my family members in Europe would only pay for a ticket and board and all the hassle to visit me IF it was for a wedding .


...

Her wedding? Well, yeah, that's kind of the point, isn't it? It being a day all about her and her mate?


If lots of people are invited to a wedding, it can't realistically all be about 'her', since it's impossible to expect guests to not have their own thoughts and opinions that are not fully identical.

It's pretty common in fact for major family disputes to be resolved, or begin, at big weddings that only involve the bride incidentally.


It depends how much energy you spend giving into all the family dramas. Who wants to sit with whom. Who will have this reaction meeting this one, but not that one, who has what expectations in general ... but who cares. It is our wedding, not theirs.

We so far have postponed the big wedding, but when we do, the idea is to have a place big enough, food, drinks music. Fun place for the kids. Everyone invited. And then people can enjoy it, or not. I plan to be on the dance floor.


Who else is it supposed to be about on the wedding day? An HN commenter?


The guests, actually, but this only strengthens GGP's point, not GP's.


> My mother-in-law resents me for that to this day.

While I'm a fan of your approach, and our wedding was also a small, close family + few friends dinner, I think your MiL's reaction may reflect a generational/cultural shift of expectations. Today, weddings are seen (by the young) and advertised as being focused on, and done for, the newlyweds - but traditionally, weddings were done for everyone else. It was celebrating the culmination of efforts of both family branches that brought up those two people and got them to the point of marrying.

Still, even as I sometimes wonder if some family member resents us for denying them the opportunity for a large traditional outing - of which there are so few once you're a working adult - I still don't think it's wise to hold an expensive wedding party, much less take a loan for it. After all, traditionally, weddings were oragnized and funded by the guests, not by the newlyweds.


My husband and I did this, basically.

Our idea is to do the whole celebration thing in a few years. We'll renew our vows for an anniversary and do all the planning then.


We told nobody. Booked a ticket to Hawaii, found a non-religous person who could officiate, hired a photographer, and had a little ceremony on the beach just for us two.

10/10, good memories, no regrets.

Still wasn't free though; creating an event even for just the two of us required money.

Our friends did a basic courthouse ceremony in town with a restaurant party afterwards, and they spent less than we did (if you count in the cost of of flight and hotel into it). Me and another friend did their wedding shots though.

My point is that even when you're not doing for others, weddings cost money for the same reasons that vacations do. Setting aside time and space for a group of people to have a good time together is very hard to do without running into expenses.

People in this thread saying they spent next to nothing on their wedding are like those who boast that their staycation cost $12 for the bottle of wine.

Saying that they decided not to celebrate getting married is a more straightforward way to say the same thing, which is fine.

But the "hurr durr you don't need all those expenses, my wedding cost $3.50 in court fees" signaling isn't any better than "We had to cut on everything and had a cheap wedding, in the $30,000-40,000 range". The latter isn't cheap, the former isn't what people would call having a wedding, and in both cases there's a surprise about other people not wanting the same thing as you do (whereas you, of course, did it the right way).

In the end of the day, if you want to spend a day in a certain way, and you spend your money to do it, then it's the right way for you to have a wedding and the right amount to spend on it.

The only important thing to not leave out is to have space, respect, and care for you and your own happiness in your own wedding, and have agency in how it all happens (you as in you AND your partner in all of the above).

And looks like that's exactly what you're doing with your plan. Congratulations on your marriage!


We did just that. Went to Vegas and got a city hall thing done. 25 years later, no one gives a toss about us not blowing $10k on a wedding. We bought a house with that money as a down payment.


>We did just that. Went to Vegas and got a city hall thing done. 25 years later, no one gives a toss about us not blowing $10k on a wedding. We bought a house with that money as a down payment.

Yeah, we had to put 10x as much for a downpayment for a townhouse in the Bay Area two years ago.

Let's say, saving on wedding to buy a house ain't working no more in this economy.


> My mother-in-law resents me for that to this day She's welcome to finance and plan a party.

We managed to keep our costs down to $5k before the pandemic but it was hard and stressful.


My wife and I did a city wall wedding and invited nobody. We had doubts but conviction to do it. As the years go on we only become more confident about that choice.


What is this?


its a location in the show "South Park"


Apparently it’s a typo. City hall.

City. Hall. Dang it I’m calling it a night.


This is a kind of person that people just generally need in their friend group for life.


This happened while I was in high school. My dad worked in IT at a company that actually still exists. He even survived the layoffs, though with a series of dramatic pay cuts.

It was such a shock going from a pretty sweet gig to the terror of sudden destitution. He was so lucky to survive but was suddenly sleeping in his cube and living in constant fear of being the next let go. I think he was the only one of his coworker/friends to survive the layoffs at his company.

Dad would describe sitting in his cube when a team of security people would get off the elevator. Everyone was terrified, not knowing who they were coming for. If it was you, they would physically remove you from your cube and haul you down to HR and that was it. One of your coworkers would pack your things into a box that you'd be handed on the way out. That happened to dozens (hundreds?) early in the process, and continued regularly for a couple of years.

I think he felt trapped at the time - there obviously weren't many tech jobs hiring, so losing a job could mean long-term unemployment or even changing careers after 20 years in the field.

Our family situation sucked, but we were extremely fortunate compared to many of those around us. Every time another mass-layoff event happens, like we've seen so many of lately, I think of those times and grieve for the people going through that now.

Not really any wisdom or insight to share on this. I just really hate the series of events and decisions which lead to hardworking people seeing their lives upended like this.


Also the founder / CEO of the company bought a private island around this time. It was featured in a magazine and, looking at the photos, it felt so bizarre and frustrating that, while so many suffered, some at the company seemed to do quite well.


I’ve been working in the valley over 25 years. This happens to me every five years or so.


If you’ve been working in the valley for 25 years then you should have substantial savings to not fear a payoff every 5 years.


A payoff or a layoff?


Layoff


What I don’t get is not having investments/cash to hold you over for a year or even 2. Whitecollar jobs pay well and I’d expect most people to have earned quite a bit in the dot com frenzy.


Depends on the period of life I presume.

You might make a lot of money, but if you're a young adult, you might still need to buy a car, a house, get kids, etc. All of which cost a lot of money, to a point where you might not be able to save much.


The parent comment I’m replying to has a man with a high school aged kid. By that point I’d expect substantial savings.


Might be the case for some. We lived in a flyover state, so pay was far from West coast. Dad's career started out with him living in a rough trailer park and hitching rides to work. Before the bust he was doing well, but he had a tough climb getting there and hadn't had much time to save up (along with starting a family and such).

Again, we were very fortunate to come though it as well as we did. Many close friends had it much worse.

There's bound to be a variety of financial and career situations out there. To me, it's difficult to imagine anyone getting canned and thinking 'meh, no biggie'.


> To me, it's difficult to imagine anyone getting canned and thinking 'meh, no biggie'.

I think there’s a subjective component where it does feel like a big deal no matter what savings you have. But objectively if you can cover expenses for a year then it really is ‘meh, no biggie’ .


This paragraph:

>I left the encampment discombobulated by the mismatch between the perpetrators (down-and-out men living in tents stealing goods someone else had already nabbed and discarded), and the victim (a multinational company valued at more than $1.5 trillion). The stuff had been taken unlawfully, yes, but part of the reason these companies manufacture items for so much less in Asia and then transport them thousands of miles in ships and trains and trucks is so they don’t have to pay the costs associated with adhering to environmental and labor laws here. Also, I was flummoxed trying to imagine how a man living in a tent would go about selling a stolen pet-grooming vacuum cleaner. What even is a pet-grooming vacuum cleaner?


Amazon is an economic parasite. It has destroyed the small business economy so thoroughly that you are forced to use it (I wonder if Gen Z realizes that you used to be able to buy things in places other than Amazon), flooded the market with fakes and fraudulent listings, and provides only exploitative sweatshop jobs where you will be stack ranked on how long it takes for you to urinate.

Good to see them reaping what they sow, even if it’s only a pinprick.


"Forced" is a bit strong -- I haven't ordered anything from amazon for years.


its a vacuum cleaner with an attachment you run through your pets hair so it can suck up loose fur that would otherwise end up in your carpet and everywhere else.

If they have a phone I presume they could list it on ebay or facebook market for some portion of its new cost and take it in a shopping cart to a pack and ship place or haul shit to an unscrupulous pawn shop.

There was a pawn shop owner in WA who was actually sending out homeless folks with shopping lists of things to steal.


What about this paragraph?


First I've heard of this, but it's super cool! Can you suggest a blog or small web site to learn more about it?


For the history of the canals, wikipedia[1] has a pretty good page. The Canal and River Trust (CRT) is the current authority for much of the canal system in England and Wales, and they have a site[2] with plenty of little articles on individual little bits and bobs.

If you're after more of a modern angle - i.e., stories and insights from people that live on them (or just use them) today, there are many blogs from boaters, but I tend to not read them unles I come across a particular post addressing something relevant to me (usually repairs...). There are also tons of vlogs and youtube channels where people document their journeys which other people in the comments have mentioned, and even TV shows! I highly recommend Canal Boat Diaries by Robbie Cumming, though outside the UK I'm not sure where it can be found. He also has a youtube channel [3] which is less highly polished and a bit more 'real'.

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_British_canal_s...

[2] https://canalrivertrust.org.uk/things-to-do/canal-history

[3] https://www.youtube.com/c/RobbieCumming


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