yeah you're right...I thought by sharing them among people I don't know, maybe it would help me lessen the chaos inside me. But now, I feel like I'm turning myself into a spectacle
Well, perhaps, that's one way to look at it, but I don't think it's the only way. By sharing your experiences you can also help others who might be feeling the same way but who aren't able to put their thoughts/feelings as eloquently into words as you can. Avoid mentally catch-22-ing yourself into a corner where you can never take any action. I will note that reading it, it doesn't feel like you're trying to make a spectacle/grab people's attention, it seems like you're just being honest to yourself.
And I'll also add that you should prioritize what's important to you right now. If the thing you need is to share some of these thoughts, then prioritize that. If the price of that catharsis is that it feels a bit like a spectacle, then so be it.
And I'll also add that for the one thing I did have that I don't like to talk about, I did have to talk about it with someone close because it was starting to eat me up a bit.
You’re oversimplifying things and making super generalized assumptions. Every individual and situation has its own unique context, which you’ve completely overlooked.
>You said convincing skills only come from personal struggles.
Convincing actually depends on other factors too, like communication skills, empathy, and understanding the audience’s perspective. Struggles might be part of it, but they’re not the whole story. Not every smart person goes through intense struggles. Some people are naturally skilled and can be convincing without dealing with major internal battles.
And even if we agree that struggle builds convincing skills… what about the people whose struggles impact them negatively instead of helping them grow?
>You also said the core of smartness is persistence and willpower.
Smartness isn’t just about persistence. It’s multidimensional—creativity, problem-solving, and adaptability play a huge role too. Plus, persistence alone doesn’t guarantee success. Opportunities, environment, and even luck are equally important.
>you said young people usually think they’ve tried everything and failed.
That’s not fair. Young people have their own way of seeing the world, and their experiences matter, even if they’re limited. Calling them “delusional” dismisses their efforts and doesn’t give their struggles the respect they deserve.
Your use of “you said” is you saying. Already you lie to yourself.
Stop lying to yourself. First step to smartness.
The rest sounds like self pity.
I’m not trying to kick you while you’re down. Self struggle and deliberate will are the top winning strategies, period. Everyone smart knows this. You, dumbo (lighten up) are outsmarting yourself.
Keep persisting, things will work out and you will evolve. Those who don’t, won’t.
I really appreciate your thoughts and understand your POV about self improvement and I agree that those things are important for growth. However, I still believe that everyone’s journey is different. While some people thrive through struggle and persistence, others might find different paths to success, such as creativity, collaboration, or external opportunities.
Every person has their own unique way of intelligence—whether it's linguistic, logical, spatial, emotional, or any other type. However, trauma and emotional struggles can seriously affect a person's cognitive and emotional abilities, making it difficult for them to recognize their potential or use their intelligence effectively.
It's not that I'm not trying to move forward or improve myself, I am trying. I'm trying a lot, but the problem is that I feel like time is passing, yet I'm still stuck where I was years ago while I've seen others move forward, even though they had to work harder. but do you know, How does it feel to be a brilliant student at one point, only to gradually see your intelligence fade away, knowing why it happened, yet being unable to help yourself?...It feels like you're trapped in sleep paralysis
Thanks for your kind words but your last line really amazed me...I think you're interested in Philosophy or Sufism...btw...I'm from Pakistan, doing my bachelor's in philosophy, and my final year just started this month. The problem is, I don’t have much time to think things through because my degree’s about to end, and I need to make a decision before my family makes one for me—but honestly, I’m super scared...because tell me where do you go when your house isn't home??...
