Things leak. A lot of people never realize their car is leaking. They don't get in the habit of crawling under their car and checking to see if their transmission is coated in grimy oil or if their transmission is sweating transmission fluid. They never notice the very slight groaning sound the car makes when turning the steering wheel because the power steering pump is leaky. They see a few drops under the front of their car in the parking lot and assume it's normal or runoff from their AC system when it's actually a radiator or water pump.
If you don't trust your mechanic enough to follow their recommendations, you should get a new mechanic. People -- man or woman -- coming in to a shop and ordering the shop around as if they know cars better than the shop staff are the worst sort of customers.
> All events occur this way.
So this is what happens when you try to inject sex and gender into every aspect of life.
I'm pretty sure technical competence trumps gender. Not that you shouldn't still get treated well without flaunting knowledge, but it seems like a good way to mitigate this fairly pervasive tendency.
I see this at gun stores all the time; woman goes in and is treated as unfortunately expected; reveals that she's a manufacturing FFL and knows the intricacies of both use-of-firearms and various forms of metal treatment in manufacturing, and is treated like an expert.
As a male one might be shamed into buying more flowers, chocolates, for birthdays, mother's days, etc.
And as a single data point, wipers and air filters are nearly always pushed on me. It's a normal part of my experience visiting an oil change place. The only exception is if i go there in a bad mood. They read that and don't bother you.
What can I say? some people are assholes. Assholes perform well in sales. Sales has to deal directly with customers. And we're all customers of something, so we'll end up running into a lot of sales people in our lives.
What does it have to do with people being assholes? It's a business trying to sell their services.
But I agree, it happens to me, as a man, all the time, regardless of what i tell them in advance. I don't think anything of it.
Doesn't change own oil or check anything else under the bonnet.
I don't know your husband but they always used to scam me with all that junk, too, and I'm a dude.