Yeah, there's a fun one for a first date. Seriously how do you handle that question? Some people have had very bad things happen to them.
This helps create a climate of intimacy and trust, regardless of the answer to the question.
Overall, I enjoyed reading the questions and I plan to do this.
I read the questions on your app without having read the list of questions on NYT or github. When I read those questions (by myself), I was filled with anticipation and not fear or apprehension. I think this is because your app and these questions pre-structure disclosure in an environment of symmetric experience. This is really important and I could talk more about this.
You can feel free to email me at zlrthn mouse geemail (replace mouse with @ and fix geemail). I haven't gone through the app with a potential partner but I'll let you know when I do.
Thank you for doing this. Made my day.
It's weird that you think a first date is a suitable date to go poking around in stuff like that or that a first date could possibly do any meaningful empathising.
That said, if you don't want to talk about it, say so. Or give only a very brief summary without going into detail ("my $relative died very slowly from cancer", "I had an abusive partner", ...).
That stinted conversation for a good 30 minutes and honestly I nearly just walked away because it was so goddamned uncomfortable. I don't want to share that kind of pain with a stranger. Maybe once I've known someone for a few months I'd feel happy doing so.
This is actually a great question. Some similar questions I have asked my partners:
* Tell me a secret
* Tell me your most embarrassing moment
* Tell me something bad about you
I remember a girl answering "my mother is crazy" to the first question.
The point of those questions are to deeply open yourself to the other. Share intimate moments. Create complicity. And in OP's tool it will also be about having an emotional roller-coaster (since it mixes happy questions with sad questions). Which as I've heard is the best way to get to someone's heart (debatable).
OP just sounds dangerously optimistic and cheerful about probing into each others' psyches. "Love Actualized"? More like air out your dirty laundry and hope the other person's ok with it.
I should probably create an accompanying course on how to hold space for someone and to create a safe, empathic environment.