Or maybe you're SO insecure that you try to look like you're so secure that you can afford to look oh god I can't finish this sentence.
Careful study of the mirror revealed only the same old familiar geek in jeans, work boots and a shirt that --while brighter than anything else I owned-- just didn't make a difference either way.
I couldn't help but conclude the whole notion was bullshit pop psychology; cousin to such useful social tools as horoscopes, fortune cookies and dream analysis.
Huh, wearing a pink shirt makes me look insecure? The signal given by the wearing a pink shirt is in the eye of the beholder. If you think less of me because of it, that's your issue, not mine.
I agree with him: you can't claim to signal nothing.
I don't doubt your conscious intention.